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Naughty in Neon

The Adventures of Mizzy Bender

June 2024

Naughty in Neon - A Swingers Weekend

Setting the stage

It's 9am and we're sitting in our hotel room, resting inbetween breakfast and club setup at 10am. I wanted to take a different approach with my blogs, writing while actually on the road. I feel I'd be able to capture my feelings so much more than having to rethink it all. Really Providing, raw and organic content. It is what makes me feel most connected to you. So I'm going to continue to build on that.

So, anyways, here we are taking a moment. Spencer's watching reels on Instagram and I'm sorta watching Sex in the City while drinking tea. It's really just background noise as we sliver into our own little worlds gearing up for a crazy 36 plus hours.

The Travel In

The travel in wasn't so bad. A few hiccups here and there, but nothing too major. Although a bit shocking from a time managementstandpoint. You see, we were both home from work during the day. We accomplished a ton of things on our pending to-do list. Spencer worked on our event storage space, organizing and gathering the materials needed for the weekend. I spent the day editing upcoming podcast episodes for The Mizzy Bender Show and packed the boutique to vend at the event. I feel so accomplished with all the progess around the podcast. I'm learning to work smarter and more efficient which is allowing me to enjoy the moments so much more.

A bit of a side thought, but another thing I decided this morning is signing off of social media during event weekends, only posting to my Instagram Subscription and OnlyFans subscription. This will allow a nice balance of down time, shooting fresh content and of course, disconnecting so I don't over load my brain with soooo much stuff. I feel really good with the progression and boundaries I'm implementing to help guide myself into further success. It's all about learning, growing and implementing.

Ok, back to the travel....

The hiccups ... It never seems to amaze me that no matter what, Spencer is always late. There was about 30 minutes worth of stress leading up to our departure time, wondering if he was going to make it or not. As you may or may not know, you must be on time and not a minute late to the ferry. If you miss the time by 1 second, you're not getting on the ferry. They'll put you in standby, but with an XL Titan pulling a 20ft trailer, doesn't allow many opportunities to squeeze us in. Thankfully, we arrived to the ferry dock with 2 minutes to spare. Every single trip you will hear a very similar story. Please prepare yourself.

The ferry was OK. The weather turned from absolutely gorgeous to rainy and a bit cold. We tried sitting on the outter deck, but quickly realized that was a terrible idea. So back inside we went, hunkering down in the middle of the boat. A spot we generally never go to. We're always in the lounge or upper deck. So it was a nice change of scenery.

The drive to the hotel went pretty quick. Probably because I slept the entire way. That's always the way these trips go. I snuggle up with my blanket and fade away to the music. There's something about thr car rides that I absolutely love. As the music plays, I add them to my play lists adding to my memories of life.

Upon arrival, Holly & Jim were waiting for us, where we chatted the night away, catching up on what's been happening since we last saw each other in May. We meet up with them just about every Friday night before the events to reconnect before the weekend gets crazy.

Event Day - Setup

Setup was a bit bumpy this time, I'm not going to lie. When we take over the club, we use the entire place. The back bar area is our play area and the front bar area is the dance/mingle area. Usually the club has the back bar cleared out, ready for our Setup. That was not the case today. This messed up the entire flow up. Half of us were unable to start our job functions. I don't know, it felt a little chaotic.

It didn't help that Spencer and I got into a decent fight because he moved my table in Mizzy's Boutique to another space and in such a rude way. I've never in my life gotten upset like that before, but it really freaking bothered me. Probably because he's always had complete say over event setups. When it comes to the boutique, that's my space. I've been unable to articulate the emotional that I felt, but it wasn't great. I had to go outside and regroup. A short while later when I came back inside, the boutique was set just as I had it. Win for Mizzy! Of course a little while later he and I reconnected to put that negative energy to bed. I think it's OK to disagree, but you've got to be able to move forward as well. I personally don't like hanging on to feelings like that, so I try to resolve things as quickly as possible.

Even though there were the little bumps, we still had a fun and laughed the entire time. Our crew left around 1pm due to other commitments, such as picking up our cupcakes for the night. Its become our tradition, and a delicious one at that. Spencer and I hung back to finish up until about 430pm. We all met back at the hotel to chill, smoke and nap until it was time to get ready for the party.

Back at the hotel, I mentioned my thoughts to Spencer about setup, and he thought I was crazy. He said, that was one of the faster setups with everyone and that it flowed great. So maybe, for me it was chaotic because we had to pivot from our usual process and that made me feel a little fuzzy inside. This is a pure example of learning how to go with the flow.

Event Time

The doors opened at 9pm and people were ready to party! The sexy neon outfits made everyone come to life. The vibe of the night was off the hook amazing. We danced the entire night, bumping and grinding to every song. The amount of fun I personally had at that event was absolutely needed. Last event I was just coming out of my surgery. I literally recieve my 6 week approval 3 days before that event. I was still not completely myself. My body was uncomfortable and I just wasn't really ready. This time around, I couldn’t wait and was definitely ready to make the best of the night. From the looks of the little bit of content I did shoot, I know I executed seamlessly. As I sit and write this, I am waiting for the photos from our photographer to come back. I always love to see what he sees from behind the lens. Once those photos are in, I'm going to share them here and launch this blog.

I do know the playrooms recieved alot of action. There was hot happenings going on all around us. The attendees were definitely feeling wild and sexy. So to me, that's a job well done. I can't wait to party for my birthday on July 20th! I hope you'll be there with me! It's going to be our first ever foam party!

The After Party

When returning to the hotel after this incredible night, we had our own sexy scene with our unicorn in the bath. I kinda enjoy the water connections with her, as I feel like we have alot of them. Maybe it's because after an event is over, we always shower. The most important thing is that we have the best chemistry, so it was the perfect way to end the night.

The Next Day - Take Down & Travel

Sunday breakdown was a breeze. I'm so thankful to the full team of humans that came to help. I think we were cleaned up within 30 minutes. It was awesome. Another amazing thing about these weekends is the sense of community, and I will tell you ... WE HAVE THE BEST! I am so proud and happy to know we have such support. It makes the job so much easier. I know many think that it's just a walk in the park because all we do is party, but that's not true. It's a production! One we take great pride in. So we're extremely thankful to those who make it a tad bit easier and certainly alot more fun!

We were on the road by 215pm to head to a 4pm ferry. I was pretty tired, I'm not going to lie. I can't say I was really hung over, but maybe a tad. After some coconut water, I was feeling a bit more hydrated and life like. Lol. I recently switched to vodka & water with mio and I'm really loving it. It doesn't make me feel all icky the next day like cosmos and fireball. Don't get me wrong ... I did have a few fireball shots, but maybe 2 or 3 compared to like 10. Lmao. Maybe that's why I always felt so icky! I just hate feeling bloated. I figured since getting the hysterectomy I should work on balancing everything. So that's why the drink switch happened.

The ferry ride was beautiful! I had a delicious chicken quesadilla for dinner on the boat. Normally I'd order grilled cheese with tomatoes and French fries, but I was really trying to stay on track. I brought my factor meals for the weekend, I didn't eat any donuts or sweet treats and not one French fry. Also I wrote this, that all sounds terrible. I love all those foods, but my body never felt better coming out of the weekend, so it's something I will keep up on.

After eating, we went on the top deck to soak up the sun until we hit long Island.

Shortly after our car ride home started, our single guy reached out, checking in on the weekend. Spencer was automatically going to tell him to meet us at our house for when we get home, but I was so tired, I asked him not too. So we just had regular conversation until our guy asked what we were up to that night. We'll, that was that. Plans were made for him to meet us at home for 7pm.

Sunday Night

O.M.G. is all I can say. I think I'm still thinking about it and it's 4 days later. This single guy is not lifestyle. He's just our friend. Last year we started the conversation of exploring a connection. At first, he didn't think I was serious. So it took some time to work through the conversations, presenting situations and ideas to see how far his thoughts go and for me, that was OK. I rather him be comfortable and ready than feel forced and pressured. You always go as fast as the slowest person in the room and that's what we did.

Earlier this year we had a really great MFM. It was the first time, so it was more about learning how to intimately connect. It also started kinda late in the night because we were shooting the shit, giving him a run down on some LS stuff. You know, all the things one should introduce and talk about to make sure everyone is on the same page. It was important for us to show and share what our relationship is like so our single guy can navigate the connection in a way that makes him feel comfortable, not out of place and absolutely included from a thought perspective. Since he's not LS, he is worried about over stepping. What many do not realize is, is if Spencer and I have a connection with a play partner, I don't think there are any boundaries that we really have. So it's our job to make sure our partners are comfortable. So that's really what the first night was about.

Because of that, Spencer and I felt it might be more comfortable for our single guy to have private alone time together. So that's what we did Sunday. Spencer stayed in the living room for the beginning and then joined a little later on after we were in a good groove. The entire experience was absolutely explosive and I really enjoyed it. It's really opened my mind to so much more. Whether sexually or as a Kink, I'm ready to explore more. I know our single guy is too, as we did have a really great reconnection conversation the next day. You'll hear more about this on an upcoming episode of The Mizzy Bender Show as well.

Overall, I'm so happy the stars and moon aligned as that will go down as one of my favorite LS moments.

The End

That's where our Naughty in Neon weekend ended. With a powerful bang, leaving me wanting more ....

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