Daily Thoughts with Mizzy Bender 9.26.25

September 26, 2025

Good Morning Beautiful Humans,

Welcome to my daily blog. My latest project.

There is something so unbelievably freeing knowing I can sit here and write anything I want. Literally, anything that comes to mind can be turned into a blog. I’ve always imagined having a daily blog where I would chat about everything happening in life but never knew I would actually make that a reality. 

This blog is what gave me my drive and passion back after last year. I needed something I could focus on. Something I could build and grow. Something that I whole heartily felt passionate about.  I didn’t realize just how passionate I was until recently. 

I did a lot of YouTube homework on running a successful blog. The biggest factor is understanding SEO, which happens to be a favorite game of mine. Anyways, originally, the objective was to blog through my hysterectomy journey as I was struggling hardcore and thought this might be a great way to work through it all. Unfortunately, that journey really broke me as a human being, making me face a lot of other icky stuff from my past. That led to me blogging about my journey into the lifestyle because somehow the stories kind of overlap. Each topic has some pretty heavy emotions attached and writing seems to be my release. 

Earlier this year I started hitting the keyboard daily, pouring all my thoughts into actual words,  releasing

them into the world, setting them free from my soul. It was the most therapeutic activity I could have tasked myself with. As a matter of fact, there are many life situations in my hopper, waiting to be written about. Probably the most detrimental and crazy is the week my step dad died. On one hand, I can not wait for you to read it. It’s so far fucking crazy, you would think I am lying. So, unfortunately, it is entertaining. When I try to tell people in real life, I laugh through it because there isn’t anything else I can do because it makes me remember …. Ummmm…. What the flying fuck! I have a lot of these moments actually. So finding this outlet has been incredible. 

While blogging through the turmoil of life, it helped me bring back Mornings with Mizzy, which was my passion during COVID. As my journey continued I flowed in so many ways with no clear direction. I knew it back then, but I really know it now… I was not living my most authentic self. 

I was confused about who I was and what I was representing. If you’ve followed my journey, I’ve spoken about it a lot. But now, as I write this blog, I am a whole new human with a completely different understanding of life and my representation in it. 

Social media is a fierce world. Politics are real. Humans create content for views & likes instead of authenticity and morals. It was something that jammed me up big time because I am not that person. I recognize we are all creative in our own ways, creating content that works for each of us independently. It doesn’t stop one from comparing likes, shares, comments creating chaos and a false narrative in our minds. 

You may be asking why I wasn’t living authentically. That feeling is because I was insecure. I was feeling judged but judged by myself I now realize. For some reason I kept in my head that my family was judging me. I kept telling myself they do not approve of what I am doing. Which is really crazy honestly, because my brother and sister have been by my side the whole time. Sure it was a rocky transition initially, but they have supported me in every way. Same with my mom. She was actually a guest on my podcast. The relationship is complex, but she still supports me. My dad and I have a silent type of support. He can’t listen to anyone trying to tell him his little girl is a sexy thang. LOL… sorry dad. 

It was only recently that I let all of this go. I’ve been doing a tremendous amount of self reflection while on mushroom journeys and I realized I was thinking they were judging me because I wasn’t happy with the content I was putting out. I felt like I was putting out more and more swinger videos just to gain views and likes. After several of those posts, it made me feel eh, but you're in a funnel, so you keep going. It’s a sick cycle. Anyone that's in the social realm knows exactly what I am talking about. 

Recently, I learned the differences between the types of content one can produce. I fit in that real life area. I love taking you along for the ride no matter what it is. Once I learned there is a real category for me, I felt so much lighter. Sounds so silly and simple, right?!  But, you don’t know what you don’t know, until it’s time to know it. 

The last 6 months have been the most amazing and rewarding time period for me. I have redefined Mornings with Mizzy to be a weekly LIVE show on Facebook and Instagram based on lifestyle topics, but still chatting up my everyday life. There is nothing in my soul that draws me in to produce a podcast to be distributed through Spotify or wherever. Been there, done that, and I hate it. 

Funneling everything back through my blog is the perfect scenario for me. I am accomplishing all the area’s I feel passionate about and make me thrive as an individual. I am no longer allowing outside noise or fuzzy feelings to lead the way. I am strong in my mind and thoughts on how I want to run my brand and I am so fucking proud about that. 

Don’t get me wrong. I am so happy I have experienced everything I have up until this point. The best schooling you can receive is hands on. And I was schooled! I am taking every bit of those learnings and building the brand of my dreams.

Bold. Unfiltered. Empowered.

Are you ready to make this girl's dream a success? Subscribe to the blog so you always receive the latest and greatest. Comment, letting me know your thoughts. Share with your communities. I’ve got so much planned! Let’s hit the ground running!

Until next time, I will talk to you super soon.

Xoxo,

Mizzy

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Background: Who doesn’t love to talk about sex and everything in between? Mizzy Bender is here to talk through all the down, dirty and not so fun moments that life has to offer. Mizzy is one female that isn’t afraid to embrace all aspects of life from sexuality to success.

Mizzy Bender is a 42 year old female entrepreneur and influencer leading the way within the Swingers / Adult Lifestyle community. If you believe in Ethical Non-Monogamy, this is the community for you. Mizzy’s journey started out with Mindbender Parties and still remains traveling the East Coast putting on full thematic swinger events with her partner in crime, Mr. Mindbender.

Mizzy’s passion and drive is all about creating an environment that is all inclusive and judgment free, where we can be who we are without question. Where one can have a platform to talk about the things we are curious about without question, finding like minded humans to love and support one another.

Through this journey, Mizzy's Boutique was formed. An adult novelty shop starting out online and has since migrated into a traveling pop up boutique at swingers / alternative lifestyle events across the US.