Welcome to the Mizzy Bender Blog—your go-to destination for real stories, education, and empowerment specializing in the ethical non-monogamy (ENM) community.

Welcome to the Mizzy Bender Blog — your daily dose of authenticity, empowerment, and unapologetic lifestyle exploration. Here, I share real stories, personal reflections, travel adventures, delicious recipes, and deep insights into the swingers lifestyle and ethical non-monogamy.

This blog is designed to inspire curiosity, spark connection, and remind you that living boldly is a choice you get to make every day. Whether you’re here for education, entertainment, self-growth, or a peek behind the scenes of my life, you’ll find something that speaks to your soul.

Dive into a world where honesty matters, empowerment leads the way, and community comes first.
Welcome to the #1 lifestyle blog for real people living real lives — without apology.

Explore, learn, and connect—because life is anything but ordinary.

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Dec 131 min read

What is Your Play Style as a Swinger?

Another really important conversation to have is about play style. I am very direct in asking "what is your play style as a swinger?" Everybody is going to have a different answer. It could even vary between committed partners.

Dec 23 min read

Questions to Ask a New Swingers Play Partner

So many jump into the swingers lifestyle having a preconceived idea of sunshine and rainbows but in actuality, that's not really what happens. Unfortunately, unless you are reading the blogs and listening to the podcasts to help educate you, things usually are messy.

Nov 255 min read

The High Line at Hudson Yards, New York City

Visiting The High Line at Hudson Yards, New York City, I was beyond thrilled. This has been on my imaginary bucket list for the longest time.

Nov 153 min read

Mizzy Bender: Why I am Writing My Story

An unfiltered story about surviving domestic abuse and addiction, finding self-worth, and rebuilding a life filled with safety and love.

Nov 148 min read

Questions to Ask a New Swinger Partner

Questions to Ask a Potential Swinger Partner. This is a topic that is constantly spoken about. This is what I'm going to say to you ... there is no question that is off bounds or off limits if it's important to you. One thing to remember is that YOU are making the decision to sleep with somebody else. It is not your problem if someone

Nov 113 min read

Swingers, How Frequently Are you Actually Playing?

Swingers, How Frequently Are you Actually Playing? There is a huge misconception on or maybe expectation on how frequently one should be playing since they are a "swinger." Those that are new, often have this idea in mind which ultimately leads to chaos. My job is to help prevent that.

Nov 102 min read

Mizzy Bender's Lifestyle Journey: The Day I Met My Ex-Husband

The following week I was on social media, I’m not entirely sure what platform, but I received a message from a guy. Chat rooms and things like that were all over the place back then. I wasn’t so active in them, but I knew of them. When I received the message it wasn’t like it was so far fetched.

Nov 44 min read

My Heart, My Healing, My Story: The Truth Behind Mizzy Bender’s Thoughts

Join Mizzy Bender as she shares raw reflections on healing, empowerment, and lifestyle adventures — to powerful lessons in self-growth and emotional freedom.

Oct 306 min read

Wild Women Wednesday: Featuring Yassiris Hernandez-Abed (Sassyyassi)

Wild Women Wednesday, a brand-new series on the Mizzy Bender blog dedicated to celebrating unapologetic women who dare to live outside the box. On Wednesday's we’ll spotlight incredible women—sharing their journeys of empowerment, strength, and freedom and beyond.

Oct 294 min read

As a Swinger, How Do I Approach Vanilla Couples?

On today's episode of Mornings with Mizzy we are going to be discussing a hot top: As a Swinger, How Do I Approach Vanilla Couples? Before we get into the main topics, I have a ton of things on my mind. Some may be triggers, but still really important to talk about. Recognizing that mental health is a major topic right now, I am bringing transparency to the world through my story.

Oct 272 min read

Swingers Party Recap with Mizzy Bender - Mindbender Parties Back to School 2025

We had the most remarkable time hosting Mindbender Parties Back to School 2025 swingers party. The first time we have held this swingers event in Rhode Island. As soon as the photographer sends us the event photos, I will be updating this blog and posting to my subscription channels. I can not wait to see what was captured. In the meantime, below is what you can expect from today's episode of Mornings with Mizzy.

Oct 33 min read

Mizzy Bender's Hysterectomy Journey: Surgery Day

the hysterectomy journey continues. It was 4:30am when the alarm went off. Time to shower with the surgery soap and head to the hospital. It was the first appointment of the day and I was so grateful. My anxiety wouldn’t have made it to the afternoon.

Oct 25 min read

Wild Women Wednesday: Sapphireink

Welcome to Wild Women Wednesday, a brand-new series on the Mizzy Bender blog dedicated to celebrating unapologetic women who dare to live outside the box. Each week, we’ll spotlight incredible women—sharing their journeys of empowerment, strength, and freedom and beyond.

Oct 14 min read

Daily Thoughts with Mizzy Bender 9.26.25

Daily Thoughts with Mizzy Bender 9.27.25

Rise and shine beautiful humans! It is 4:31am and I am ready to start my day. Normally, this would be my time to journal, but now we are going to transition it to the blog, keeping the same format. Generally, I recap the day before, self reflecting on all of it. So let’s dive into the world of Mizzy Bender.

Sep 278 min read

Homemade Granola by Mizzy Bender

The perfect homemade granola recipe—crunchy, wholesome, and naturally sweetened. Packed with oats, nuts and a hint of honey, this easy recipe makes a delicious and healthy breakfast or snack

Sep 263 min read

Daily Thoughts with Mizzy Bender 9.26.25

There is something so unbelievably freeing knowing I can sit here and write anything I want. Literally, anything that comes to mind can be turned into a blog. I’ve always imagined having a daily blog where I would chat about everything happening in life but never knew I would actually make that a reality.

Sep 265 min read

Is It Alright to be a Swinger?

The truth? Swinging is as “alright” as the humans who choose to engage in it. At its core, swinging is about consenting adults swapping sexual partners, living outside the traditional monogamous relationships we are all accustomed to. There’s no universal right or wrong...only what aligns with your values, your relationship, and your happiness.

Sep 76 min read

Inside My World as a Swingers Lifestyle Influencer

Join Mizzy Bender, swingers lifestyle influencer and advocate, as she shares her journey, future goals, and insights into the swingers community. Explore events, education, and real talk about ethical non-monogamy.

Aug 184 min read

3Fun – The Ultimate Dating App for Open-Minded Humans

3Fun – The Ultimate Dating App for Open-Minded Humans Alright, sexy humas — this is BIG news and I am so EXCITED! You already know I live...

Aug 73 min read