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Welcome to the Mizzy Bender Blog—your go-to destination for real stories, education, and empowerment in the swinger lifestyle and ethical non-monogamy (ENM) community.
Dive into thought-provoking articles on relationships, jealousy, confidence, lifestyle events, and open communication, all designed to inspire, inform, and connect. From personal stories and event recaps to expert insights and lifestyle tips, this blog gives everyday adults the tools and confidence to explore their authentic selves.
Whether you’re curious about the upside-down pineapple, looking for guidance on open relationships, or simply seeking inspiration to live boldly, the Mizzy Bender Blog is here to guide your journey.
Explore, learn, and connect—because life is anything but ordinary.
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My Heart, My Healing, My Story: The Truth Behind Mizzy Bender’s Thoughts
Join Mizzy Bender as she shares raw reflections on healing, empowerment, and lifestyle adventures — to powerful lessons in self-growth and emotional freedom.
2 days ago6 min read
Wild Women Wednesday: Featuring Yassiris Hernandez-Abed (Sassyyassi)
Wild Women Wednesday, a brand-new series on the Mizzy Bender blog dedicated to celebrating unapologetic women who dare to live outside the box. On Wednesday's we’ll spotlight incredible women—sharing their journeys of empowerment, strength, and freedom and beyond.
3 days ago4 min read
As a Swinger, How Do I Approach Vanilla Couples?
On today's episode of Mornings with Mizzy we are going to be discussing a hot top:
As a Swinger, How Do I Approach Vanilla Couples? Before we get into the main topics, I have a ton of things on my mind. Some may be triggers, but still really important to talk about. Recognizing that mental health is a major topic right now, I am bringing transparency to the world through my story.
5 days ago2 min read
Swingers Party Recap with Mizzy Bender - Mindbender Parties Back to School 2025
We had the most remarkable time hosting Mindbender Parties Back to School 2025 swingers party. The first time we have held this swingers event in Rhode Island. As soon as the photographer sends us the event photos, I will be updating this blog and posting to my subscription channels. I can not wait to see what was captured. In the meantime, below is what you can expect from today's episode of Mornings with Mizzy.
Oct 33 min read
Mizzy Bender's Hysterectomy Journey: Surgery Day
the hysterectomy journey continues. It was 4:30am when the alarm went off. Time to shower with the surgery soap and head to the hospital. It was the first appointment of the day and I was so grateful. My anxiety wouldn’t have made it to the afternoon.
Oct 25 min read
Wild Women Wednesday: Sapphireink
Welcome to Wild Women Wednesday, a brand-new series on the Mizzy Bender blog dedicated to celebrating unapologetic women who dare to live outside the box. Each week, we’ll spotlight incredible women—sharing their journeys of empowerment, strength, and freedom and beyond.
Oct 14 min read
Daily Thoughts with Mizzy Bender 9.27.25
Rise and shine beautiful humans! It is 4:31am and I am ready to start my day. Normally, this would be my time to journal, but now we are going to transition it to the blog, keeping the same format. Generally, I recap the day before, self reflecting on all of it. So let’s dive into the world of Mizzy Bender.
Sep 278 min read
Homemade Granola by Mizzy Bender
The perfect homemade granola recipe—crunchy, wholesome, and naturally sweetened. Packed with oats, nuts and a hint of honey, this easy recipe makes a delicious and healthy breakfast or snack
Sep 263 min read
Daily Thoughts with Mizzy Bender 9.26.25
There is something so unbelievably freeing knowing I can sit here and write anything I want. Literally, anything that comes to mind can be turned into a blog. I’ve always imagined having a daily blog where I would chat about everything happening in life but never knew I would actually make that a reality.
Sep 265 min read
Is It Alright to be a Swinger?
The truth? Swinging is as “alright” as the humans who choose to engage in it. At its core, swinging is about consenting adults swapping sexual partners, living outside the traditional monogamous relationships we are all accustomed to. There’s no universal right or wrong...only what aligns with your values, your relationship, and your happiness.
Sep 76 min read
Inside My World as a Swingers Lifestyle Influencer
Join Mizzy Bender, swingers lifestyle influencer and advocate, as she shares her journey, future goals, and insights into the swingers community. Explore events, education, and real talk about ethical non-monogamy.
Aug 184 min read
3Fun – The Ultimate Dating App for Open-Minded Humans
3Fun – The Ultimate Dating App for Open-Minded Humans Alright, sexy humas — this is BIG news and I am so EXCITED! You already know I live...
Aug 73 min read
My First MFM Lifestyle Experience: Absolutely Mind-Bending
Join Mizzy Bender as she shares her deeply personal, raw, and empowering story about her first MFM threesome experience. From nervous excitement to explosive pleasure, this unfiltered blog offers a real-life look into the swinger lifestyle and ethical non-monogamy.
Jul 108 min read
Unfiltered Insights into the Swingers Lifestyle: Advice, Real Talk, and Personal Stories from Mizzy Bender
Throughout my experiences as a swingers lifestyle influencer, I’ve heard it all. People often think swinging is simply about casual, consequence-free interactions. In reality, it’s deeply rooted in clear communication, trust-building, and respecting personal boundaries. Forget misconceptions—real swinging requires honesty, patience, and mutual respect.
Jul 84 min read
Booked & Unbound Book Club
Join Mizzy's exclusive adult book club to explore thrilling adventures, captivating romances, and empowering self-growth reads. Indulge your imagination, connect with passionate readers, and discover your next favorite book.
Jun 273 min read
Inside the Swinger Lifestyle: Myths, Realities, and Essential Tips for Newcomers
Join Mizzy Bender, ethical non-monogamy educator and swinger event host, as she debunks myths, clarifies realities, and shares insider tips on navigating swinger events with confidence, communication, and consent.
Jun 253 min read
The Reality Hit - My Womanhood was Being Taken Away : Mizzy's Hysterectomy Journey
he would be able to remove everything from my hooo ha, successfully accomplishing this laparoscopically. If I waited even just a bit of time, it would have absolutely turned into a full on belly cut open surgery and my immediate response what fuck that. No way. Was he seriously saying we are doing a hysterectomy?
Jun 195 min read
Swinger Lifestyle Unfiltered: Body Image, Boundaries, and Mental Health with Mizzy Bender
Welcome to a live Q&A session hosted by me, Mizzy Bender, where I discuss various aspects of the swinger lifestyle, my personal experiences, and answering questions while providing advice and insights. The discussion covers topics such as my struggles with body image and sexuality, my recent weekend adventures, the importance of communication and setting boundaries in the lifestyle, and the role of mental health awareness.
Jun 192 min read
Anxiety is Bullshit!
Explore a raw and relatable journey through severe medical anxiety triggered by illness. Discover practical coping strategies, mindful meditation techniques, and personal insights for overcoming intense panic attacks and reclaiming emotional health.
Jun 154 min read
Lady Issues and the Swingers Lifestyle
About a year into dating it was just a nightmare. This really dictated our sex life and any potential opportunities with play partners. Things were so unpredictable. There would be times I would be so excited on event night when I wasn't bleeding and then BAM as soon as we got to the club it would start. It's really not fun. It's actually really gross.
Jun 115 min read
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