Mizzy Bender's Lifestyle Journey: Mizzy in her 20s
- Mizzy Bender
- Oct 7
- 4 min read
Updated: Nov 1
Mizzy Bender's Lifestyle Journey: Mizzy in her 20s
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The bar was short-lived. I am not exactly sure what happened, but sometime around Thanksgiving I stopped working there and started at the watch counter in Macy’s for the holiday season. THAT WAS THE WORST JOB OF MY LIFE. For real. Don’t ever do it. It’s long hours and dirt pay.
By the time early December came, I knew I was going to have a hard time keeping up with things the way they were going. I was absolutely having the time of my life, but goodness, if I needed to work this many jobs to keep this going, maybe I wasn’t ready. I think I was more freaked out about having to buy Christmas gifts and all that. Looking back on things, I wish I would have stayed there and kept on trucking along. I don't think I NEEDED to work all those jobs, but more so wanted to make sure I would always be secure. So fighting it out would have been a much better decision. But, it is what it is and what it had to be.
I eventually made the decision to ask my parents if I could move back home. Of course they allowed me back with whatever parameters they felt fit at the time. I am sure they were absolutely ridiculous for my age as well. My mom had the tendency to put 20x the amount of rules on me then she did with my brother and sister. It was one of the reasons her and I bumped heads so much. Regardless of my thoughts and behaviors at the time, I will always appreciate them allowing me back all the times I asked.
I was back home by the first or second weekend in December due to the way the lease lined up.
Simultaneously, I broke it off with dark haired guy. He definitely was becoming less of a fan of my lifestyle, and was becoming increasingly annoyed with the thought that I was cheating on him. I was kind of shocked when he was telling me his point of view. I didn’t realize he and I were exclusive. Yeah, we hung out, but he was as equally distant as he was connected. It was confusing. After having time to self reflect on our conversation, I broke up with him over the phone while at work one day. Looking back on it, I could have handled it differently, but I didn’t have time for confused humans. I wanted to be an independent female living my life the way I wanted to. I felt he was still hung up on his ex-girlfriend and I wanted to feel chosen. He didn't give me that over the top feeling. It was more lust and excitement.
I will always LOVE that time period with him. He opened my eyes to sexuality and what it was like to be with a man who was dominant. He set the tone for me being with Spencer 100%. Had I not explored during this short period of time, I would never know how fun and enjoyable sex could be.
August 2004-December 2004 were the best 5 months that I have ever lived up until that time... LOL the whole 21 years I was alive. I didn’t know it, but true happiness wouldn’t come for another 15 years.
Until next time, I will talk to you super soon.
Xoxo,
Mizzy
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Background: Who doesn’t love to talk about sex and everything in between? Mizzy Bender is here to talk through all the down, dirty and not so fun moments that life has to offer. Mizzy is one female that isn’t afraid to embrace all aspects of life from sexuality to success.
Mizzy Bender is a 42 year old female entrepreneur and influencer leading the way within the Swingers / Adult Lifestyle community. If you believe in Ethical Non-Monogamy, this is the community for you. Mizzy’s journey started out with Mindbender Parties and still remains traveling the East Coast putting on full thematic swinger events with her partner in crime, Mr. Mindbender.
Mizzy’s passion and drive is all about creating an environment that is all inclusive and judgment free, where we can be who we are without question. Where one can have a platform to talk about the things we are curious about without question, finding like minded humans to love and support one another.
Through this journey, Mizzy's Boutique was formed. An adult novelty shop starting out online and has since migrated into a traveling pop up boutique at swingers / alternative lifestyle events across the US.
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