Welcome to the Mizzy Bender Blog—your go-to destination for real stories, education, and empowerment in the swinger lifestyle and ethical non-monogamy (ENM) community.

Dive into thought-provoking articles on relationships, jealousy, confidence, lifestyle events, and open communication, all designed to inspire, inform, and connect. From personal stories and event recaps to expert insights and lifestyle tips, this blog gives everyday adults the tools and confidence to explore their authentic selves.

Whether you’re curious about the upside-down pineapple, looking for guidance on open relationships, or simply seeking inspiration to live boldly, the Mizzy Bender Blog is here to guide your journey.

Explore, learn, and connect—because life is anything but ordinary.

Mizzy Bender's Lifestyle Journey: Every Smutty Detail

I was really successful, selling hundreds of dollars at a time. It was a lot of fun learning how to run this mini business of mine. Who knew it would have prepped me for my lifestyle journey.

Oct 245 min read

Empowering Words for Women by Women: Featuring Krystal

Welcome to Wild Women Wednesday, a brand-new series on the Mizzy Bender blog dedicated to celebrating unapologetic women who dare to live outside the box. Each week, we’ll spotlight incredible women—sharing their journeys of empowerment, strength, and freedom and beyond.

Oct 223 min read

Mizzy Bender's Lifestyle Journey: Mizzy in her 20s

By the time early December came, I knew I was going to have a hard time keeping up with things the way they were going. I was absolutely having the time of my life, but goodness,

Oct 74 min read

Inside My World as a Swingers Lifestyle Influencer

Join Mizzy Bender, swingers lifestyle influencer and advocate, as she shares her journey, future goals, and insights into the swingers community. Explore events, education, and real talk about ethical non-monogamy.

Aug 184 min read

Hot Tub Confessions: Inside My Swingers Lifestyle Party & Microdosing Experience

Mizzy Bender tackles swinger misconceptions, reveal the truth about what really happens at these gatherings, and offer practical advice on navigating ethical non-monogamy and the swinger lifestyle.

Jul 302 min read

My Swinger Lifestyle Birthday Bash

Join Mizzy Bender, swinger lifestyle influencer and educator, as I share intimate reflections from my epic outdoor foam birthday bash. Discover empowering insights on boundaries, self-discovery, community, and how to authentically embrace the swinger lifestyle safely.

Jul 213 min read

Behind the Bubbles: Mizzy Bender Talks Swingers Lifestyle Events, Boundaries, and Birthdays!

Hello, my fabulous friends! It’s Mizzy Bender here, your go-to swingers lifestyle advocate and influencer, coming at you straight from the cozy warmth of my hot tub. If you missed my latest Q&A session, you’re in luck, because today I’m diving deep into all the juicy details, personal insights, and exciting events from our chat. So, sit back, relax, and let's unpack it together!

Jul 144 min read

My First MFM Lifestyle Experience: Absolutely Mind-Bending

Join Mizzy Bender as she shares her deeply personal, raw, and empowering story about her first MFM threesome experience. From nervous excitement to explosive pleasure, this unfiltered blog offers a real-life look into the swinger lifestyle and ethical non-monogamy.

Jul 108 min read

Inside the Swinger Lifestyle: Myths, Realities, and Essential Tips for Newcomers

Join Mizzy Bender, ethical non-monogamy educator and swinger event host, as she debunks myths, clarifies realities, and shares insider tips on navigating swinger events with confidence, communication, and consent.

Jun 253 min read

The Reality Hit - My Womanhood was Being Taken Away : Mizzy's Hysterectomy Journey

he would be able to remove everything from my hooo ha, successfully accomplishing this laparoscopically. If I waited even just a bit of time, it would have absolutely turned into a full on belly cut open surgery and my immediate response what fuck that. No way. Was he seriously saying we are doing a hysterectomy?

Jun 195 min read

Swinger Lifestyle Unfiltered: Body Image, Boundaries, and Mental Health with Mizzy Bender

Welcome to a live Q&A session hosted by me, Mizzy Bender, where I discuss various aspects of the swinger lifestyle, my personal experiences, and answering questions while providing advice and insights. The discussion covers topics such as my struggles with body image and sexuality, my recent weekend adventures, the importance of communication and setting boundaries in the lifestyle, and the role of mental health awareness.

Jun 192 min read

Anxiety is Bullshit!

Explore a raw and relatable journey through severe medical anxiety triggered by illness. Discover practical coping strategies, mindful meditation techniques, and personal insights for overcoming intense panic attacks and reclaiming emotional health.

Jun 154 min read

Lady Issues and the Swingers Lifestyle

About a year into dating it was just a nightmare. This really dictated our sex life and any potential opportunities with play partners. Things were so unpredictable. There would be times I would be so excited on event night when I wasn't bleeding and then BAM as soon as we got to the club it would start. It's really not fun. It's actually really gross.

Jun 115 min read

Reflections on Step-Motherhood and the Complexities of Life

I am so thankful for my step son and always will be. I had the opportunity to be part of his world in such a big way. At the same time, I know that everything I did had layers of reasons attached. Some reasons feel deep and selfish, but I know they were always in the best interest of my step son.

Jun 84 min read

Swingers: Learn How to Communicate Effectively | Communication in the Swingers Lifestyle

Swingers: Learn How to Communicate Effectively | Communication in the Swingers Lifestyle How to Talk to your Partner about Swinging Mizzy...

Jun 32 min read

The Hysterectomy Journey that Started with an Abortion

Over the last few weeks, I have been at a stand still with writing. Truthfully, with everything and I have finally connected the dots. I’ve created boundaries and spoke my truth. Now, it's time to lay it all out starting at the very beginning which is somewhere during the summer of 1998.

May 49 min read

Swingers Lifestyle Tips

Recently I hosted a LIVE Swingers Lifestyle Tips Q&A on SDC.com, the largest swingers lifestyle platform. Listen in as I answer questions and share my own thoughts along the way.

Apr 172 min read