The Days Following the Swingers Meet & Greet: The True Beginning to the End

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The Days Following the Swingers Meet & Greet: The True Beginning to the End

Have you read The Day I Learned About the Swingers Lifestyle? Then you are ready to read the next part. If not, click to catch up: The Day I Learned about the Swingers Lifestyle by Mizzy Bender

The memories of Saturday night lived on in my head for the days following. Who would have ever thought I would be at a swingers meet & greet. Never in a million years. I had no idea that kind of world existed. I mean sure, I knew people had threesomes and things like that, and I really have always been attracted to women, I just never thought too deep into it all. I am so naive in so many ways. To my defense, I was super focused on my career (I was a corporate girl supporting the C suite trying to move up the ladder) and my home life was so complicated that I didn't pay attention to much else.

But Saturday June 27th, 2018 was a game changer. I felt like my whole life opened up that night. I can't really explain it, but I knew I was really intrigued to live a life other than what I was. Did I think I was going to become some form of a swinger? No. However, I did appreciate the idea of the openness, the sexual nature and all around living outside the lines. I was all about that. That was truly me hidden deep deep down feeling like she was going to be lost forever. Suffocating day by day. That girl had so much fun. I missed her. Even still, I guess in all the time I thought about leaving, I never thought about what happens after that. The goal was always to leave. Gosh, now that I am writing this, it sounds silly. But priorities are priorities and there were only so many tasks I was able to handle at time.

I had one more year until my step son graduated and then I was committed to moving on independently. 4 years prior to that is when my 5 year exit plan began. It was around the time my rotti attacked me for the last time. I had to make a change. I had to figure out what to do but I couldn't leave my step son. I tried so many times staying at family members houses all while trying to take care of him from a distance but that was really hard. Not to mention the conflict I had with actually leaving him at the house to manage through whatever may be happening. So I would gain my energy back, make the amends that I always did so things could go back to normal, then I would go back home. There wasn't enough paper and pen at that time to get me through my emotions, all while dreaming of a life of love, lust and passion. Hoping that one day, I would have the courage to make the moves that I knew I needed to make.

Attending this surprise meet & greet really opened my eyes. It confirmed that the things I would journal about weren't too far fetched. The universe presented a whole new way of living and I was intrigued. I was so thankful to have all these new thoughts and feelings to process especially because I went into an awkward day of silence and uncomfortable interactions with my ex-husband. I didn't know it at the time, but the universe was setting my path up, guiding me to a whole new world.

What was even more strange is that Spencer would pop into my head every now and them. I really don't know what I was thinking. Was I attracted to him? Did I just think he was so vibrant and outgoing? He looked handsome that's for sure. He was kind. His smile was incredible. I admired his outgoing spirit towards life. It was just a larger than life feeling and I only spent seconds at a time in his company. Obviously I didn't stay in those thoughts because my life was something else and a massive shit show at that.

By the time Sunday night came, things went back to normal, as they always did. We were on track to keep with the Monday game plan initially created. 

We both drove independently that day, with the plan being that I leave work at exactly 5pm to get to Ford a bit early so I could finalize the car paperwork. By the time I finished with all of that, my ex would be there to follow me home, so we could swoop right back to the dealership to pick up the Expedition. I waited for him for 45 minutes. He never showed up nor did he answer any of my phone calls. Eventually Ford said I could keep my truck there until I figured out a new plan.  In my mind I knew exactly what happened. He was drunk somewhere, leaving me hanging once again.  The anger, sadness, disappointment, and humiliation ran through my blood like boiling water. For a short while I allowed my emotions to take over, and I was feeling really awful. But, I had to keep going. So, I gathered my stuff and hopped in my brand new mustang! I took in the glorious smell of leather, opened the windows and blasted the radio. I was ready to rock this bitch. 

Quickly back to reality - I went directly home so I could figure out exactly what was going on. Well as soon as I pulled close enough to my driveway, there he was, over the top intoxicated standing at the top of the driveway, right inside the garage. He was so drunk, he was standing there in a floating kind of way, looking right through me. He couldn’t even speak words. I think he was trying, but he couldn’t get anything out. I lost my goddamn mind. Like really lost my shit. I started yelling everything I could and probably nothing at all. I was furious. I went inside to lay down, maybe to try and fall asleep through all the tears. And then I remembered, right before I left the office, my boss said to me…. You have worked really hard for this moment. You are extremely excited about this. Do not let anyone take that away from you. (My bosses knew things were bad at home so I understood exactly what he was saying) I took a deep breath, pulled myself together, grabbed my new car keys and called my brother. 

I explained to my brother what was happening and that I needed his help with retrieving my truck from the dealership. Like the amazing human that he is, he came right away. Once we dropped the truck back at my house, I spent the night driving up and down the Long Island Expressway blasting ridiculous music, singing at the top of my lungs, reflecting on the weekend, battling between pure bliss and complete sadness. 

Once sobriety came back into play, and my ex realized I wasn’t home and the messages began. By the time I arrived home, I was interrogated and made to feel like I did something wrong. It truly broke my heart, and I went to sleep with tears in my eyes holding on to the happiness from Saturday night at Cherry's.

Tuesday was the true beginning to the end. Follow along every Tuesday at 12pm EST to hear what happens next.

Until next time, I will talk to you super soon.

XOXO,

Mizzy

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Who doesn’t love to talk about sex and everything in between? Mizzy Bender is here to talk through all the down, dirty and not so fun moments that life has to offer. Mizzy is one female that isn’t afraid to embrace all aspects of life from sexuality to success.

Mizzy Bender is a 41 year old female entrepreneur and influencer leading the way within the Swingers / Adult Lifestyle community. If you believe in Ethical Non-Monogamy, this is the community for you. Mizzy’s journey started out with Mindbender Parties and still remains traveling the East Coast putting on full thematic swinger events with her partner in crime, Mr. Mindbender.

Mizzy’s passion and drive is all about creating an environment that is all inclusive and judgment free, where we can be who we are without question. Where one can have a platform to talk about the things we are curious about without question, finding like minded humans to love and support one another.

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