Empowering Words for Women by Women: Featuring Heather
- Mizzy Bender
- Nov 12
- 5 min read
Empowering Words for Women by Women: Featuring Heather
Wild Women Wednesday
Bold. Unfiltered. Empowered.
Welcome to Wild Women Wednesday, a brand-new series on the Mizzy Bender blog dedicated to celebrating unapologetic women who dare to live outside the box. On Wednesday's we’ll spotlight incredible women—sharing their journeys of empowerment, strength, and freedom and beyond.
This series isn’t just about interviews—it’s about giving a platform to the raw, real voices of women who challenge expectations, break stereotypes, and embrace life in its boldest form. From navigating love and desire to shattering myths about bold, vibrant women, these ladies inspire us all to step into our power and live authentically. It looks different for us all!
Empowering Words for Women by Women!
Meet Heather
Who are you in your own words?
I can be a little reserved at first, but I love making people feel welcome and included. I’m creative, playful, and always looking for the positive side of things. Trust, transparency, and respect are huge for me, and I try to bring good vibes and connection wherever I go.
What’s one word you’d use to define yourself as a “Wild Woman”?
Untamed
What has been the boldest decision you’ve ever made for yourself?
The boldest thing I ever did was stop letting my past define my future. I chose growth over comfort, truth over illusion, and peace over chaos. I’ve learned that bravery isn’t about never being afraid — it’s about showing up for yourself anyway. And that’s exactly what I did.
When did you first realize you were meant to live unapologetically?
There wasn’t one exact moment — it was a gradual awakening. Little by little, I started honoring what felt right for me, even when it didn’t make sense to anyone else. I realized I didn’t have to earn love or validation by being smaller, quieter, or easier to understand. Living unapologetically became my way of finally saying: I am enough, exactly as I am.
What empowers you the most in your day-to-day life?
The boldest decision I ever made was choosing myself — fully, intentionally, and without apology. For so long, I carried pieces of who I thought I was supposed to be — pleasing, performing, and pretending I was fine. But somewhere along the way, I realized that survival isn’t the same as living. Healing became my turning point — the moment I decided to stop running from my past and start walking toward my truth.
What’s one truth about you that surprises people?
Truth: I wasn’t always this self-aware or grounded — I had to unlearn a lot to get here. Reflection: People often see the healed version of me, not the chaos it took to become her. What surprises them most is that my calm is the result of storms, my wisdom is born from mistakes, and my peace is something I fight for every day.
If you could scream one unfiltered message to the world, what would it be?
You were never meant to be small.
Who are the women (past or present) that inspire you to live boldly?
My mother for starters, my friends Ashley M, Amanda E., Etain, Elizabeth, Ericka, Jenn B, and Pannda are all the women that have bravely inspired me.
What advice would you give another woman who is ready to step into her power?
Start small. Set boundaries that protect your peace. Speak your truth even when it trembles. Celebrate your wins, and forgive your missteps. Strength isn’t about being fearless — it’s about moving forward despite fear.
What does being part of a community of Wild Women mean to you?
Being part of a community of wild women means showing up fully — messy, bold, and unapologetic — and knowing you are celebrated for it. It’s a circle where courage is contagious, vulnerability is strength, and every victory, big or small, is lifted by sisterhood. When one of us rises, we all rise. 🌿✨
If your wild side had a soundtrack, what three songs would be on it?
1. “Criminal” – Fiona Apple
2. “I’m a Bitch” – Meredith Brooks.
3. “Edge of Seventeen” – Stevie Nicks
What’s one adventure still on your bucket list?
One adventure I still dream of is diving headfirst into the unknown — traveling to a place I’ve never been, with nothing planned but curiosity as my guide. I want to lose myself in new cultures, chase sunsets I’ve only imagined, and come home knowing I trusted myself completely.
What legacy do you want to leave behind?
I want to be remembered as a woman who lived fully, loved fiercely, and never apologized for being herself. A woman who inspired others to step into their power, embrace their truth, and shine unapologetically. My legacy isn’t about accolades — it’s about the courage I sparked, the freedom I championed, and the lives I touched along the way.
Where can readers find and support you (social links, projects, businesses)?
✈️ Telegram: japanese_aura
Ps. I had considered awhile back starting a blog, but I just haven’t had the time nor motivation to begin something of that magnitude yet since I have many other responsibilities. Maybe someday I will.
Celebrating Wild Women Every Where!
Until next time, I will talk to you super soon.
Xoxo,
Mizzy
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