Mizzy Bender Weekly Highlights: Behind the Scenes of My Life
- Mizzy Bender
- Nov 2
- 10 min read
November 2,2025
Mizzy Bender Weekly Highlights: Behind the Scenes of My Life
Life Lately with Mizzy Bender: Weekly Updates & Adventures
What have I been up to? Let's just say the adventure never ends! Between running the businesses and embracing the crazing thing we call life, I am sharing the moments that shaped my week in to the Bold. Unfiltered. Empowered life that it is.
Happy Day Light Savings Time - said no one ever!
Anyway, It was an amazing week! I have been in hibernation mode, trying to keep myself functioning and balanced, navigating my mental health. I will explain all of this below. I have to say, I did a great job. On Monday, I came back in full force with Mornings with Mizzy after being on break for family vacation and
not feeling well. The topic of the show is: As a swinger, how do you approach vanillas while in a public setting. Before I launched into my show thoughts, things got real deep and emotional. I have the tendency to do that on Mornings with Mizzy, and I am not ashamed. Sometimes we need an outlet, and you are mine. The topics I discuss are pretty heavy and can be triggering, so please keep that in mind. You can watch the show by clicking here.
The most important take away is that by getting back into the groove of the morning show, it helped me get back to my schedule (sorta). I need that in order to be successful in my day. A schedule and a list. If not, I feel like a goddamn mess. I am slowly pulling it together.
Also, this weeks personal blog:
Monday was also my mother-in-laws birthday, so we met in town for dinner. They live locally so it makes get togethers pretty convenient. We tell them every single thing we have going on in life, so it is refreshing to spew the good and the bad, knowing they will always support us. If I am being honest, I wasn't thrilled about having to leave the house, but it happened, and I am glad I got dressed for the occasion.
I did cancel on my niece's school Halloween function and trick or treating, but it was good that I was in my own environment this week. My emotions have been running high, and I felt that it was important to keep myself in a peaceful environment. When there's sensory overload, I can feel a bit overwhelmed. I knew I wasn't mentally in a place to handle that. Surprisingly, I do not feel much guilt over it. I feel more proud that anything.
We almosttttttt had our official first Hot Date on Thursday, but at the last minute, we had to reschedule. I was highly disappointed by this outcome, but when the time is right, it will happen. Spencer always stated - when the stars and moon align, you will know. I did write a blog about the entire thought process leading into the date, but you'll have to wait to read it for when the date actually happens. I want it to be a before and after mindset so you get a solid understanding on how things go. That setting up and kind of swinger, lifestyle, ethical non-monogamy kind of thing, takes time and patience. Stay tuned!
Mizzy Homemaker: Home, Kitchen & Lifestyle Tips
Mizzy’s Weekly Menu: What I’m Cooking & Loving
I truly enjoy the world of creating food that is good for the soul and nourishing for the body. From weekly meal prep to delicious desserts, cleaning hacks, travel prep and so much more... I am diving in full force, talking about all the things I do to run and keep a balanced household.
I am a vision in mind when I think about this section of the blog. I am not there yet, but this is the week that I set my goals to making it happen. I am dedicated to making sure I cook dinner every night of the week, such as the below. I was in a good routine for a while.
This chicken dish was inspired by Joanna Gaines, Perfect Chicken Recipe
I need this transition to fully happen. It is the last thing on my Mizzy Makeover list to make me feel like I am really becoming my true self. It has been the most exciting journey so far!
If you have a favorite fall recipe that is a must try, comment it and I will cook/bake it up for a future blog.
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Mizzy Bender’s Book Club & Reviews
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So many great books! This week on audio through my Libby library app, I listened to:
She Didn't See It Coming by Shari Lapena: This was a really great listen, with the best conclusion. She didn't see it coming and neither did I!
Funny Story by Emily Henry: I really love this book. It was fun, quirky but relatable. It was weird how such a fun, light hearted book, could hold the same heavy topic I am managing through. It was really comforting. You know it is a captivating book when you laugh out loud. If you need something fun, I recommend her books.
The Crash by Freida McFadden: The plot is forever keeping you questioning who the true culprit is. When I am looking for an easy read or listen, I always choose Freida. The story lines are so insane once it all comes together. To date, I have never predicted the correct outcomes.
I did not read an actual book, as I had two on order that were due to arrive Monday but have arrived late and not at all.
You Think You Know by Kevin Federline: The late arrival but I am glad it came. I am always so interested to learn what happens behind the scenes. The saw truths and realities of others. Brittany's book was powerful. I may actually read or listen to it again after reading this one. It depends if I have more questions. I also wanted to read her sister's book. I am most certainly adding that to the list. Having everyone's perspective is fascinating .... but also sad due to it being at the expense of one person.
The one still enroute is from an author we met at Exxxotica. His story is about what it was like being married to a porn star. I thought that was really fascinating too. Generally, you hear the females side. It is very rare to have the guys side. I really hope it shows up.
But interesting that my book choices for the week are from male voices and life perspectives. A big switch up.
Mizzy Bender’s Picks: Current TV Worth Mentioning
The Entertainment Scoop & TV Reviews
From binge watching shows to the bla shows. I'll give you the scoop on what we are watching in the Mindbender household.
I have been struggling with something to watch. It's the same old stuff no matter how many streaming networks one has. The only true saving grace is figuring out our TV has Samsung TV, so I watch Martha Stewart all day long.
Thankfully, I found Sullivans Crossing yesterday on Netflix, and I am really liking it. If you have streaming recommendations, comment them. I would absolutely love some suggestions!
Mind Body & Soul - Mizzy Bender’s Wellness Community
Mental Health Matters
Self-care matters! In this section, I will share all the things I am doing to keep my mental health in check. I will share my self-care routines, ways I stay balanced and so much more. Join the Mizzy Bender wellness group on Facebook for daily motivation and support.
It has been a wild time that is for sure. After being on the Lexapro for over a year, it was time to try and come off of them. I have done so much therapy and self work this past year to ensure I understand my triggers and how to work through them. I have only begun to dive into the true emotional work, which will be unraveling through my blogs, but I feel solid. I don't have the internal fear or struggles that I was dealing with last year. I do still have anxiety, but I am controlling it, knowing I am healthy and loved. I feel really proud making it this far.
The downside is that the emotional imbalance has been fucking wild. I have felt every emotions to its hardest degree. On one hand it was kind of nice because I haven't felt emotions in a really long time. On the other hand, it has been overwhelming to manage. I have been weening off for about 6 weeks now and still have 2 or 3 weeks left. With that said, I have sat on the couch a lot all while order tons of carvel. It was good while it while it lasted, but let's not stay in this moment.
Thankfully, I feel like I am leveling out. It has been effort to function through the day. I have no motivation. I have no fun feeling. I have emptiness. I know it will take more time to come back to me and I am supporting the process as well as Spencer. In my hard moments, he pumps and positive affirmation, giving me a little pep in my step.
I am strong so I know I will be ok.
To help, I am officially enrolled in reformer Pilates classes Mondays & Wednesdays. Having a dedicated exercise routine will be extremely beneficial with helping me get to the next phase of this healing process. I can not wait!
Saved Meme's Quote's From the Week:
Lifestyle Events and Adventures
Mindbender Parties & Mizzy Bender
From our events to travel adventures, I will be sharing all the juicy gossip. I assure you there is never a dull moment!
OMG - Halloween was an actual flop. As I just mentioned, I canceled on trick or treating with my family
because it was so freaking windy out there. No thank you. I love them, But I didn't want to be uncomfortable and knowing my state of mind, it was important that I stayed home.
I did commit to Spencer that we would go out Saturday night. Halloween is his favorite, and we didn't do any Halloween things. If you consider Disney World Halloween, then we tackled the 'holiday' in a big ole' way but other than that, not one haunted house. I am sure a lot of it has to do with me, so I had to make the best effort to get my ass out of the house.
To ensure I was in the best mindset for the night, I kept to myself all day editing content while Spencer worked on cleaning his closet. Eventually, I put Martha Stewart on and took a nap. I woke up with about an hour before needing to leave so I could create the best Mizzy Brewster costume I could. Before you knew it, it was 10:30pm and we were headed out the door.
The lifestyle club is about 40 min from us, which is annoying on popular party nights. The cops are out, ready to pounce. Spencer never takes chances, so I never have to worry, but it's everyone else. Sure enough, we saw a few ridiculous things to/from, which included a car chase.
Anyways, we got to the club and after waiting outside for a half an hour, we decided to bounce, heading to a regular vanilla bar that we usually party at. I think we pulled into the parking lot around midnight - and it was a ghost town. We couldn't believe it.
Spencer and I can make the best of any situation with just he and I. We were determined to make this night a success, so we went in. LOL - the place was just about empty. By the time we hit the dance floor the YMCA was played, we both looked at each other with wide eyes, thinking What the actual Fuck.... but kept on bopping. I can't remember what came on next, but we both gave the nod of ... let's get the fuck out of here.
And that was that. Halloween was a bust. Things are just not what they used to be. I spoke about it when talkin about Disney and Exxxotica. How the world changes......
Next up for Mindbender Parties: Nuttin for XXXmas Lifestyle Party - December 6, 2025
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Until next time, I will talk to you super soon.
Xoxo,
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Mizzy Bender is a 42 year old female entrepreneur and influencer leading the way within the Swingers / Adult Lifestyle community. If you believe in Ethical Non-Monogamy, this is the community for you. Mizzy’s journey started out with Mindbender Parties and still remains traveling the East Coast putting on full thematic swinger events with her partner in crime, Mr. Mindbender.
Mizzy’s passion and drive is all about creating an environment that is all inclusive and judgment free, where we can be who we are without question. Where one can have a platform to talk about the things we are curious about without question, finding like minded humans to love and support one another.
Through this journey, Mizzy's Boutique was formed. An adult novelty shop starting out online and has since migrated into a traveling pop up boutique at swingers / alternative lifestyle events across the US.
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