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Welcome to the Mizzy Bender Blog—your go-to destination for real stories, education, and empowerment in the swinger lifestyle and ethical non-monogamy (ENM) community.
Dive into thought-provoking articles on relationships, jealousy, confidence, lifestyle events, and open communication, all designed to inspire, inform, and connect. From personal stories and event recaps to expert insights and lifestyle tips, this blog gives everyday adults the tools and confidence to explore their authentic selves.
Whether you’re curious about the upside-down pineapple, looking for guidance on open relationships, or simply seeking inspiration to live boldly, the Mizzy Bender Blog is here to guide your journey.
Explore, learn, and connect—because life is anything but ordinary.
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My Heart, My Healing, My Story: The Truth Behind Mizzy Bender’s Thoughts
Join Mizzy Bender as she shares raw reflections on healing, empowerment, and lifestyle adventures — to powerful lessons in self-growth and emotional freedom.
19 hours ago6 min read
Wild Women Wednesday: Featuring Yassiris Hernandez-Abed (Sassyyassi)
Wild Women Wednesday, a brand-new series on the Mizzy Bender blog dedicated to celebrating unapologetic women who dare to live outside the box. On Wednesday's we’ll spotlight incredible women—sharing their journeys of empowerment, strength, and freedom and beyond.
2 days ago4 min read
As a Swinger, How Do I Approach Vanilla Couples?
On today's episode of Mornings with Mizzy we are going to be discussing a hot top:
As a Swinger, How Do I Approach Vanilla Couples? Before we get into the main topics, I have a ton of things on my mind. Some may be triggers, but still really important to talk about. Recognizing that mental health is a major topic right now, I am bringing transparency to the world through my story.
3 days ago2 min read
Swingers Party Recap with Mizzy Bender - Mindbender Parties Back to School 2025
We had the most remarkable time hosting Mindbender Parties Back to School 2025 swingers party. The first time we have held this swingers event in Rhode Island. As soon as the photographer sends us the event photos, I will be updating this blog and posting to my subscription channels. I can not wait to see what was captured. In the meantime, below is what you can expect from today's episode of Mornings with Mizzy.
Oct 33 min read
Mizzy Bender's Hysterectomy Journey: Surgery Day
the hysterectomy journey continues. It was 4:30am when the alarm went off. Time to shower with the surgery soap and head to the hospital. It was the first appointment of the day and I was so grateful. My anxiety wouldn’t have made it to the afternoon.
Oct 25 min read
Wild Women Wednesday: Sapphireink
Welcome to Wild Women Wednesday, a brand-new series on the Mizzy Bender blog dedicated to celebrating unapologetic women who dare to live outside the box. Each week, we’ll spotlight incredible women—sharing their journeys of empowerment, strength, and freedom and beyond.
Oct 14 min read
Mizzy Bender's Bisexuality Journey
I do love the ladies, but it's not like I was able to just wake up one day and be like, "Oh, here I am. I like the ladies." It wasn't like that by any means. Let me tell you all about it my bisexuality journey.
Sep 308 min read
I've Developed Feelings for my Swinging Partner
During today's episode of Mornings with Mizzy, I share the challenges of separating emotions and feelings from sex in the swingers' lifestyle—especially for couples who are just starting out. This was a community summited topic, so I wanted to make sure we really tackled the topic head on. Developing feelings for my swinging partner is a No No - and we will get into the thoughts of others, how to avoid it and what to do if it happens.
Sep 293 min read
Mizzy Unfiltered: Navigating Jealousy After an Amazing Swinger Experience
Welcome to Mizzy Unfiltered, where I share my honest truth to your anonymously submitted question.
This is another pretty popular topic in the lifestyle because people do not understand the depths of the lifestyle. Everyone see's these glorified videos showing the excitement instead of the complexities. So let's dive into feeling jealous after an amazing swinger experience...
Sep 284 min read
Daily Thoughts with Mizzy Bender 9.27.25
Rise and shine beautiful humans! It is 4:31am and I am ready to start my day. Normally, this would be my time to journal, but now we are going to transition it to the blog, keeping the same format. Generally, I recap the day before, self reflecting on all of it. So let’s dive into the world of Mizzy Bender.
Sep 278 min read
Homemade Granola by Mizzy Bender
The perfect homemade granola recipe—crunchy, wholesome, and naturally sweetened. Packed with oats, nuts and a hint of honey, this easy recipe makes a delicious and healthy breakfast or snack
Sep 263 min read
Is It Alright to be a Swinger?
The truth? Swinging is as “alright” as the humans who choose to engage in it. At its core, swinging is about consenting adults swapping sexual partners, living outside the traditional monogamous relationships we are all accustomed to. There’s no universal right or wrong...only what aligns with your values, your relationship, and your happiness.
Sep 76 min read
Navigating the Swinger’s Lifestyle as a Beginner
Join Mizzy Bender—swinger lifestyle expert and ethical non-monogamy influencer—for a raw and empowering Q&A session. Learn how to build confidence, communicate boundaries, and navigate swinger events like hotel takeovers and club parties. Perfect for beginners and seasoned lifestylers alike.
Sep 25 min read
Fight or Flight Mode: Coping with Anxiety, Surgery Fears & Business
I was literally going through the motions of life trying to get to the finish line. Coping with anxiety is rough stuff. The days couldn't come fast enough.
Aug 264 min read
3Fun – The Ultimate Dating App for Open-Minded Humans
3Fun – The Ultimate Dating App for Open-Minded Humans Alright, sexy humas — this is BIG news and I am so EXCITED! You already know I live...
Aug 73 min read
My Swinger Lifestyle Birthday Bash
Join Mizzy Bender, swinger lifestyle influencer and educator, as I share intimate reflections from my epic outdoor foam birthday bash. Discover empowering insights on boundaries, self-discovery, community, and how to authentically embrace the swinger lifestyle safely.
Jul 213 min read
Behind the Bubbles: Mizzy Bender Talks Swingers Lifestyle Events, Boundaries, and Birthdays!
Hello, my fabulous friends! It’s Mizzy Bender here, your go-to swingers lifestyle advocate and influencer, coming at you straight from the cozy warmth of my hot tub. If you missed my latest Q&A session, you’re in luck, because today I’m diving deep into all the juicy details, personal insights, and exciting events from our chat. So, sit back, relax, and let's unpack it together!
Jul 144 min read
My First MFM Lifestyle Experience: Absolutely Mind-Bending
Join Mizzy Bender as she shares her deeply personal, raw, and empowering story about her first MFM threesome experience. From nervous excitement to explosive pleasure, this unfiltered blog offers a real-life look into the swinger lifestyle and ethical non-monogamy.
Jul 108 min read
Unfiltered Insights into the Swingers Lifestyle: Advice, Real Talk, and Personal Stories from Mizzy Bender
Throughout my experiences as a swingers lifestyle influencer, I’ve heard it all. People often think swinging is simply about casual, consequence-free interactions. In reality, it’s deeply rooted in clear communication, trust-building, and respecting personal boundaries. Forget misconceptions—real swinging requires honesty, patience, and mutual respect.
Jul 84 min read
Booked & Unbound Book Club
Join Mizzy's exclusive adult book club to explore thrilling adventures, captivating romances, and empowering self-growth reads. Indulge your imagination, connect with passionate readers, and discover your next favorite book.
Jun 273 min read
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