Mizzy Bender's Hysterectomy Journey: Surgery Day
- Mizzy Bender
- Oct 2
- 5 min read
Updated: Nov 1
Mizzy Bender's Hysterectomy Journey: Surgery Day
Monday, March 18, 2024 ... the hysterectomy journey continues. It was 4:30am when the alarm went off. Time to shower with the surgery soap and head to the hospital. It was the first appointment of the day and I was so grateful. My anxiety wouldn’t have made it to the afternoon. Another thing I am grateful for is my brother and sister. They knew how fearful I was and so they were at my house by 5am to follow us to the hospital. Spencer didn’t understand, but you can’t break a bond like our sibling bond. There was no way they would let me go under without seeing their faces beforehand with the state of mind I was in.
Welcome to the Hospital
The hospital itself was so nice. It was small and quiet. The hospitals in my area that I am familiar with are ridiculously large and overwhelming. Having this space more intimate felt so calming. The intake went quickly and before I knew it, I was in my own private room getting hooked up to the monitor. The poor nurse kept trying to calm my nerves, but it really wasn’t working. She eventually said don’t you worry dear, as soon as the anesthesiologist and your surgeon check in, you’ll get anxiety meds.
The Anesthesiologist was Amazing
It was a very short wait before the anesthesiologist came to visit. He was so lovely. Extremely calming. I made sure I told him my fear of dying and how much I am freaking out. I’m positive Spencer told him too. He sat with me for a long time. In such a calming, cool tone, he went through all the things he could think of to try and calm me down, reassuring me that I will be ok. He said that he was going to come back with anxiety meds as soon as he received word that I had spoken with my surgeon.
Time for the Surgeon
About 15-20 minutes later my surgeon came in to go through the plan. It took about 5 minutes. Again, this doctor is amazing. From the start he was so caring. He truly had the best bedside manor. I am sure he knew if he made one wrong move or statement I would be going bonkers. It was probably best for him to keep things short and sweet.
As soon as he left the anesthesiologist came in and immediately put something in my IV. I feel like it was instantaneous … I was cool as a cucumber. I barely remember being taken out of the holding room into the hallway leading to the surgery room. They must have pumped me up good.
Time for the Hysterectomy
The next thing I remember is slowly waking up in the recovery room. I remember telling myself to wake up. Get a grip. Wake up. I said it over and over and over until I forced a noise, sparking the nurse to come over. I know that I was worried that I wasn't going to come back. I didn't really feel fear, but it was somewhere through my body. By the time the nurse made it over I was alert enough to tell her that I was cold. When she covered me with the blanket I said to myself… girl, I am so proud of you. You woke up. Then, shortly after receiving that first blanket, I asked for 10 more. By the time I made it back to my recovery room, I was buried in blankets. It was kind of comical.
Post-Surgery Reflections
Seeing Spencer, my siblings and my Dad (that part was a huge surprise) was such a beautiful thing. I can not tell you how happy my insides were. My siblings and dad were only there for a quick minute. After they showed me their faces, they left. I love them so much for doing that for me. I truly have the best siblings in the world. I have no idea how my world would ever be complete without them. We talk 24/7. Some may think we are insane. But I wouldn't have it any other way.
My darling Spencer. I didn't realize how much unintentional pressure I put on him to get us through it all. He knew he had to hold it together stronger than he ever had to before. He knew I was beyond terrified and he had to show it was no big deal. He had to carry every bit of me until the end. I didn’t realize it until we were talking while we were waiting for me to be released. He was finally able to share his point of view and experience. At that moment I just wanted to wrap my whole body around him, hugging him with everything I had. He is truly an incredible soul and loves me with his entire being. It is a beautiful feeling. Without him, this point in life would have been impossible.
Soon enough, I was coming back to reality and was starving. My mission was to eat and pee so I could go home. That was no problem at all. I drank 3 apple juices and ate a turkey sandwich. I think we were home by 1pm.
Time to Recover
By the time we arrived home, my father in law stopped by to drop me flowers and soup. They really are gems in situations like this. I am thankful that soup was available because that is all I ate for like a week.
The recovery was really difficult. Beyond difficult actually. Stay tuned as I continue to share my journey through this ridiculous hysterectomy.
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Until next time, I will talk to you super soon.
Xoxo,
Mizzy
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Background: Who doesn’t love to talk about sex and everything in between? Mizzy Bender is here to talk through all the down, dirty and not so fun moments that life has to offer. Mizzy is one female that isn’t afraid to embrace all aspects of life from sexuality to success.
Mizzy Bender is a 42 year old female entrepreneur and influencer leading the way within the Swingers / Adult Lifestyle community. If you believe in Ethical Non-Monogamy, this is the community for you. Mizzy’s journey started out with Mindbender Parties and still remains traveling the East Coast putting on full thematic swinger events with her partner in crime, Mr. Mindbender.
Mizzy’s passion and drive is all about creating an environment that is all inclusive and judgment free, where we can be who we are without question. Where one can have a platform to talk about the things we are curious about without question, finding like minded humans to love and support one another.
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