Lady Issues and the Swingers Lifestyle
- Mizzy Bender
- 6 days ago
- 5 min read
Before I launch into this blog, I decided to finally post the photos from the shoot in the header photo. I didn't show most of them because I was insecure about the bruising and my body at the time due to all of this nonsense, but not any more! I love my body for all it was and is! Find the entire shoot on my OnlyFans. There are some really sexy shots including an entire shower series! Looking back on this gave me the idea to blog through old shoots because each one brings a different set of memories. Stay tuned on that.
Lady Issues and the Swingers Lifestyle
Early into mine and Spencer's relationship he really started encouraging me to go to the doctor for my issues. At the time it was non stop which was causing me to be tired and easily bruise. It was so frustrating and certainly didn't look good!
About a year into dating it was just a nightmare. This really dictated potential opportunities with play partners in the swingers lifestyle. Things were so unpredictable. There would be times I would be so excited on event night when I wasn't bleeding and then BAM as soon as we got to the club it would start. It's really not fun. It's actually really gross. That left a whole set of other insecurities for the night.
Quick Swinger Story
It made participating in the lifestyle really difficult. I'll tell you a quick story of when I knew this bleeding thing was an issue and was so thankful that I had surgery scheduled for December 2019.
November 2019 we were headed to Secrets in Florida for a calendar shoot. I won Ms. July through a voting competition they were having. From that we formed virtual relationships with the ladies running for the months after me. I was so excited that the few girls I was rooting for won and that we would all be hanging together in the beautiful Florida sun.
I was beyond excited for this trip because it was the first lifestyle thing away from all the bullshit I was currently dealing with in the lifestyle. We haven't even begun to touch upon that yet. But you'll definitely need the popcorn when I do. I actually realized the severity of it when we were on this very trip.
Anyway, we really clicked with one of the couples. It was the first time I was truly attracted to a female in the lifestyle and was able to freely flow through whatever the dynamic was. It was a no pressure environment. We were all very outgoing individuals who wanted nothing but a good time. We had so much fun. All of us. I think if you ask any one of us it will be rated as one of our top memories together. For me, it's a top memory overall.
One of the nights we were really getting along great. The sexual energy was flowing and we were totally in it. Except Mizzy couldn’t bang because I started to bleed sometime earlier that night. So it was a lot of oral giving. I love it, so not a big deal But disappointing to know my stupid body broke. I also feel like it's hard to explain to people without them thinking it is an excuse not to bang. If I didn’t want to, I would be very straight forward about that.
Overall, we each had a great time during that trip and would not have changed it for the world. But it was definitely the final eye opener that the upcoming surgery was definitely needed. I would also like to mention that I did not have any fear going into this surgery. Sure, the typical antsy type that one would normally experience. But nothing like the anxiety I live with today and that you will begin to read about in the next blog.
The Diagnosis
Turns out that the reason I was bleeding so much was because I had a polyp in my uterus lining or something like that, so my body was constantly trying to push it out. This also caused extreme cramping. As I was learning this information, my doctor said…. To put it like this, it's a good thing God blessed you with a pretty outside because the inside is a disaster. Wow. OK. Thanks doc. Anyway, he suggested that I have a hysterectomy at that time but gave me an option of a D&C with a polypectomy. The thought of a hysterectomy sounded really intense and so crazy, so I chose the scrapping option. Had I known it was going to turn into a mandatory thing, I would have done it then.
Nothing Lasts Forever
The procedure went well and I was feeling amazing for about a year. Slowly as time went on things got super irregular and out of control again. My cycle settled at every 21 days with bleeding in between at times. Do you know what it is like to never be off of your cycle? There were times when all I wanted to do was sleep. I was exhausted. I looked tired. My stomach felt uneasy a lot of the time. When I would cramp, it would be the most sickening intense feeling to the point it would make me throw up. Nothing helped the pain. I would smoke a tremendous amount of weed and drink honey infused tea to send my body into such a silent place. I would have to sleep sitting up, leaning a certain way so I could just maintain some sort of comfort. Most importantly, the moments I was able to lay down to sleep, my pup Thor would snuggle right against my belly like a heat pad, putting the perfect pressure to relax me, allowing me to sleep.
My hormones were all over the place, making my body all out of whack. Feeling the constant bloat was discouraging and uncomfortable. There was just so much to it. As a guy, you don’t understand how deep this shit goes. For the females, some of you are lucky but I know there are way more of you who can relate. Looking back on how horrible I felt all the time, I know the hysterectomy was the best thing for my body. Once I get through all the emotions, I know that it was the best thing for my mind too.
If you just came across this blog, I recommend going back to the beginning, taking the journey with me as I tell the story. Click here
Until next time, I will talk to you super soon.
XOXO,
Mizzy
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Background: Who doesn’t love to talk about sex and everything in between? Mizzy Bender is here to talk through all the down, dirty and not so fun moments that life has to offer. Mizzy is one female that isn’t afraid to embrace all aspects of life from sexuality to success.
Mizzy Bender is a 41 year old female entrepreneur and influencer leading the way within the Swingers / Adult Lifestyle community. If you believe in Ethical Non-Monogamy, this is the community for you. Mizzy’s journey started out with Mindbender Parties and still remains traveling the East Coast putting on full thematic swinger events with her partner in crime, Mr. Mindbender.
Mizzy’s passion and drive is all about creating an environment that is all inclusive and judgment free, where we can be who we are without question. Where one can have a platform to talk about the things we are curious about without question, finding like minded humans to love and support one another.
Through this journey, Mizzy's Boutique was formed. An adult novelty shop starting out online and has since migrated into a traveling pop up boutique at swingers / alternative lifestyle events across the US.
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