Welcome to the Mizzy Bender Blog—your go-to destination for real stories, education, and empowerment in the swinger lifestyle and ethical non-monogamy (ENM) community.

Dive into thought-provoking articles on relationships, jealousy, confidence, lifestyle events, and open communication, all designed to inspire, inform, and connect. From personal stories and event recaps to expert insights and lifestyle tips, this blog gives everyday adults the tools and confidence to explore their authentic selves.

Whether you’re curious about the upside-down pineapple, looking for guidance on open relationships, or simply seeking inspiration to live boldly, the Mizzy Bender Blog is here to guide your journey.

Explore, learn, and connect—because life is anything but ordinary.

Navigating the Swinger’s Lifestyle as a Beginner

Join Mizzy Bender—swinger lifestyle expert and ethical non-monogamy influencer—for a raw and empowering Q&A session. Learn how to build confidence, communicate boundaries, and navigate swinger events like hotel takeovers and club parties. Perfect for beginners and seasoned lifestylers alike.

Sep 25 min read

Creating Boundaries in the Swingers Lifestyle

In this episode, Mizzy Bender shares her real-life experiences and expert insights on creating healthy boundaries in the swinger lifestyle. From physical play limits to emotional clarity and aftercare, discover how ethical non-monogamy thrives on communication, respect, and evolving consent. Tune in for practical advice every lifestyle couple needs.

Jun 103 min read

Swingers: Learn How to Communicate Effectively | Communication in the Swingers Lifestyle

Swingers: Learn How to Communicate Effectively | Communication in the Swingers Lifestyle How to Talk to your Partner about Swinging Mizzy...

Jun 32 min read

Let’s Talk About It: STDs in the Swinger Lifestyle

When it comes to swinging, communication and consent are king—but health and safety are just as vital. In this blog, we break down the realities of STDs in the lifestyle world: what to look for, how to stay protected, and how to normalize honest conversations about testing and treatment. Let’s make sexual health part of the pleasure.

May 163 min read

Swingers & Jealousy | Ethical Non-Monogamy & Jealousy

Let’s Talk About Swingers & Jealousy: Owning It, Understanding It, and Moving Through It. In this empowering vlog episode, I dive deep into one of the most common — yet rarely talked about —

May 82 min read

How Do I Get My Wife to Join the Swingers Lifestyle?

How do I get my Wife to Join the Swingers Lifestyle". It is one of the most asked questions, and the answer is not so cut & dry. Listen to this podcast for swingers, proving lifestyle tips and education to help you be your best pineapple swingers self.

Apr 152 min read

Setting Healthy Boundaries When Entering the Swingers Lifestyle - Ep 10

Setting healthy boundaries when entering the swingers lifestyle will be something I always advocate for. Over the last few episodes, we've

Apr 102 min read