Creating Boundaries in the Swingers Lifestyle
- Mizzy Bender
- 6 days ago
- 3 min read
Creating Boundaries in the Swingers Lifestyle
Hi, its me, Mizzy Bender, your swinger's ethical non-monogamy overall lifestyle bracket, influencer, educator and I'm here to discuss the importance of creating boundaries in the swingers lifestyle. Listen to my personal experiences and insights in hopes it provides guidance on how couples can establish healthy boundaries around physical, emotional, and practical aspects of non-monogamous relationships.
Key Topics from this Episode
Importance of Boundaries
Boundaries are the blueprint that keeps the swinger's lifestyle consensual and safe.
Without clear boundaries, couples risk resentment, confusion, and emotional fallout.
Establishing boundaries is critical to maintaining trust and a healthy relationship.
Physical Boundaries
Discuss and agree on the specific sexual activities you and your partner are comfortable with (soft swap, hard swap, independent play, etc.).
Identify any limits or "off-limits" acts.
Communicate these boundaries clearly with any play partners.
Emotional Boundaries
Determine the level of emotional intimacy you and your partner are comfortable with (flirting, repeat play partners, etc.).
Avoid making assumptions - have open conversations to align on emotional boundaries.
Be aware of the potential for emotional attachment and jealousy.
Practical Boundaries
Decide how frequently you want to engage in the lifestyle (weekly, monthly, etc.).
Consider the time, cost, and logistical factors involved.
Ensure lifestyle activities don't interfere with other life responsibilities.
Privacy and Disclosure
Maintain discretion and confidentiality about your swinger's activities.
Avoid name-dropping or sharing details without consent.
Respect the privacy of your play partners.
Aftercare
Discuss how you and your partner want to reconnect and "reclaim" each other after a play session.
Explore any specific kinks or needs you have for post-play intimacy.
Ensure you both feel cared for and emotionally supported.
I encourages couples to take the time to reflect on their individual needs and desires, and to continuously revisit and adjust their boundaries as they grow and evolve within the swinger's lifestyle. Consent, respect, and discretion are paramount for maintaining a healthy, drama-free experience.
Until next time, I will talk to you super soon.
Xoxo,
Mizzy
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Background: Who doesn’t love to talk about sex and everything in between? Mizzy Bender is here to talk through all the down, dirty and not so fun moments that life has to offer. Mizzy is one female that isn’t afraid to embrace all aspects of life from sexuality to success.
Mizzy Bender is a 41 year old female entrepreneur and influencer leading the way within the Swingers / Adult Lifestyle community. If you believe in Ethical Non-Monogamy, this is the community for you. Mizzy’s journey started out with Mindbender Parties and still remains traveling the East Coast putting on full thematic swinger events with her partner in crime, Mr. Mindbender.
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Great read. I've been "Volunteered" into being the male perspective of "Don't kiss and tell" to new couples. I warn them that if word gets around that they are careless or outright bragging about encounters or showing photos or videos that they will be shunned by the community and their invitations will dry up.
That being said, I also tell them that there are many who like their adventures told or viewed. But it needs to be clearly stated beforehand. I've even wanted to come up with a checklist of permissions to be signed first. I said that as a joke several years ago, but have been asked recently if I had made up the form.
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