Is it Really Just the Single Guys in the Lifestyle? Ep 6
- Mizzy Bender
- Mar 17
- 3 min read
Mornings with Mizzy
Adult Lifestyle Podcast / (Swingers / Ethical Non Monogamy)
March 17, 2025
Is it Really Just the Single Guys in the Lifestyle? Ep 6
On today's episode of Mornings with Mizzy Podcast, we will be discussing Is it Really Just the Single Guys? It's a reoccurring topic that single men in the swingers lifestyle get such a bad wrap. But why? I did some research by posting the question of .. What are some things single men in the lifestyle do, that just irks you so much. The answers that came back really can apply to everyone, not just single men. I thought it would be a great exercise to talk about each entry one by one, really understanding the depth of it thought.
The specific talking points for today's show are below. (Part 2 of 5)
Single guys that grab. I can’t stand that!
When they treat us women like we just have sex with everyone, and then get mad when we politely reject them.
Follow my wife around, touching when I am not looking
Assuming you’ll have sex with them because you’re in the lifestyle.
Creeping into my inbox without asking permission first in the group.
Not understanding no
I cannot stand people who are pushy. If you proposition me and I say no.. the answer is no. It doesn’t mean ask me again in a week, a month. I am aware of their interest and if my decision changes I will inform them.
If it’s not ENTHUSIASTIC CONSENT, it’s not consensual.
Over-the-top compliments using words like "luscious, magnificent, goddess, delicious, breathtaking, etc" The ick factor is significant!!!
Honestly it's things that make women turned off to all guys on the LS. I won't say it's all of them because I know some that are respectful. But as a guy who is part of a couple, I feel that I'm looked at by some as the same before even knowing about me. I feel that Sara and I both like looking and talking to people but I'm not looked at the same as her. I was a single guy in the LS before I met her and now since being together, I'm not really looked at better than before. It's very frustrating.
When they completely ignore the fact that a woman has a significant other and tries to  aggressively (consistently tries to talk her into play without confronting her husband, significant other or life partner in some cases. To me that is completely disrespectful especially if they have been told to speak to said person already. This also applies to men who are there with girlfriends/ partners and some relationship men. But to be clear there are some women who fit the bill with this also. Just a humble opinion in a nutshell
Tell you how they are so big and great they are going to make you have the best orgasm of your life.
Wandering around a LS party until they ultimately realize it's clearly going nowhere because we aren't there for them.
Although I have not gone to these parties in ages, I do go as a single. The problem I see is people think it's orgy party, and it's not. People need to do their homework. I go to enjoy the ambiance, music and meet very cool people/couples. Sex is not the first thing on my mind.
Until next time, I will talk to you super soon,
Mizzy
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Background: Who doesn’t love to talk about sex and everything in between? Mizzy Bender is here to talk through all the down, dirty and not so fun moments that life has to offer. Mizzy is one female that isn’t afraid to embrace all aspects of life from sexuality to success.
Mizzy Bender is a 41 year old female entrepreneur and influencer leading the way within the Swingers / Adult Lifestyle community. If you believe in Ethical Non-Monogamy, this is the community for you. Mizzy’s journey started out with Mindbender Parties and still remains traveling the East Coast putting on full thematic swinger events with her partner in crime, Mr. Mindbender.
Mizzy’s passion and drive is all about creating an environment that is all inclusive and judgment free, where we can be who we are without question. Where one can have a platform to talk about the things we are curious about without question, finding like minded humans to love and support one another.
Through this journey, Mizzy's Boutique was formed. An adult novelty shop starting out online and has since migrated into a traveling pop up boutique at swingers / alternative lifestyle events across the US.
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