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Welcome to the Mizzy Bender Blog—your go-to destination for real stories, education, and empowerment in the swinger lifestyle and ethical non-monogamy (ENM) community.
Dive into thought-provoking articles on relationships, jealousy, confidence, lifestyle events, and open communication, all designed to inspire, inform, and connect. From personal stories and event recaps to expert insights and lifestyle tips, this blog gives everyday adults the tools and confidence to explore their authentic selves.
Whether you’re curious about the upside-down pineapple, looking for guidance on open relationships, or simply seeking inspiration to live boldly, the Mizzy Bender Blog is here to guide your journey.
Explore, learn, and connect—because life is anything but ordinary.
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Swingers Party Recap with Mizzy Bender - Mindbender Parties Back to School 2025
We had the most remarkable time hosting Mindbender Parties Back to School 2025 swingers party. The first time we have held this swingers event in Rhode Island. As soon as the photographer sends us the event photos, I will be updating this blog and posting to my subscription channels. I can not wait to see what was captured. In the meantime, below is what you can expect from today's episode of Mornings with Mizzy.
Oct 33 min read
Fight or Flight Mode: Coping with Anxiety, Surgery Fears & Business
I was literally going through the motions of life trying to get to the finish line. Coping with anxiety is rough stuff. The days couldn't come fast enough.
Aug 264 min read
Inside My World as a Swingers Lifestyle Influencer
Join Mizzy Bender, swingers lifestyle influencer and advocate, as she shares her journey, future goals, and insights into the swingers community. Explore events, education, and real talk about ethical non-monogamy.
Aug 184 min read
Hot Tub Confessions: Inside My Swingers Lifestyle Party & Microdosing Experience
Mizzy Bender tackles swinger misconceptions, reveal the truth about what really happens at these gatherings, and offer practical advice on navigating ethical non-monogamy and the swinger lifestyle.
Jul 302 min read
My Swinger Lifestyle Birthday Bash
Join Mizzy Bender, swinger lifestyle influencer and educator, as I share intimate reflections from my epic outdoor foam birthday bash. Discover empowering insights on boundaries, self-discovery, community, and how to authentically embrace the swinger lifestyle safely.
Jul 213 min read
My First MFM Lifestyle Experience: Absolutely Mind-Bending
Join Mizzy Bender as she shares her deeply personal, raw, and empowering story about her first MFM threesome experience. From nervous excitement to explosive pleasure, this unfiltered blog offers a real-life look into the swinger lifestyle and ethical non-monogamy.
Jul 108 min read
Inside the Swinger Lifestyle: Myths, Realities, and Essential Tips for Newcomers
Join Mizzy Bender, ethical non-monogamy educator and swinger event host, as she debunks myths, clarifies realities, and shares insider tips on navigating swinger events with confidence, communication, and consent.
Jun 253 min read
Lady Issues and the Swingers Lifestyle
About a year into dating it was just a nightmare. This really dictated our sex life and any potential opportunities with play partners. Things were so unpredictable. There would be times I would be so excited on event night when I wasn't bleeding and then BAM as soon as we got to the club it would start. It's really not fun. It's actually really gross.
Jun 115 min read
Creating Boundaries in the Swingers Lifestyle
In this episode, Mizzy Bender shares her real-life experiences and expert insights on creating healthy boundaries in the swinger lifestyle. From physical play limits to emotional clarity and aftercare, discover how ethical non-monogamy thrives on communication, respect, and evolving consent. Tune in for practical advice every lifestyle couple needs.
Jun 103 min read
Swingers & Jealousy | Ethical Non-Monogamy & Jealousy
Let’s Talk About Swingers & Jealousy: Owning It, Understanding It, and Moving Through It. In this empowering vlog episode, I dive deep into one of the most common — yet rarely talked about —
May 82 min read
Ending our New Hampshire Swingers Trip with a Bang
For the actual part of the swingers trip, I wanted to record a vlog so you can understand my emotions and true thoughts a little deeper than through just words. Another one for the record books!
Apr 202 min read
Swingers Lifestyle Tips
Recently I hosted a LIVE Swingers Lifestyle Tips Q&A on SDC.com, the largest swingers lifestyle platform. Listen in as I answer questions and share my own thoughts along the way.
Apr 172 min read
Mindbender Parties Shamrocks & Shenanigans: Swingers Party Recap with Mizzy Bender
It was the week of Shamrocks & Shenanigans when we'd soon see all of our wild & crazy swinger friends and whatever other classification of Ethical Non-Monogamy that you fall into …. and man, was it busy!
Apr 1012 min read
Good Morning From Mizzy Bender
Which got me thinking about these blogs. I can legit post whatever I want. I can talk about whatever I want and share whatever photo's I wan
Apr 73 min read
The Swingers Lifestyle: What Excites Mizzy Bender
Today we are tapping into "What excites" me when attending a swingers party. I am writing in chronological order, so this subject may pop up
Apr 66 min read
Swingers Lifestyle Travel Check List
Are you headed to your first swingers lifestyle party and don't know what to pack? Don't worry—I've got you covered! Here's your ultimate pa
Apr 44 min read
Party like it is 2004 - The Year Mizzy Bender Turned 21
July 18, 2004 Mizzy Bender turned 21. Looking back, I can totally understand why I fit so well in an open kind of relationship. I also reali
Apr 15 min read
Weekend of Desire: Anticipation, Sexting, and Sensual Swingers Adventure Awaits!
Charlie, however, doesn't immediately respond. Instead, he goes silent. My heart sinks momentarily—a familiar feeling since Charlie often dr
Mar 313 min read
Is it Really Just the Single Guys in the Swingers Lifestyle? Ep 8: Part 4 of 5
On today's episode of Mornings with Mizzy Podcast, we will be discussing Is it Really Just the Single Guys? It's a reoccurring topic that si
Mar 313 min read
Shackled by Love, Saved by Fate: My Journey from Chaos into the Swingers Lifestyle
It was Tuesday morning and my then husband was still shackled up in the basement. I hadn’t seen him all week. I was becoming a bit worried,
Mar 287 min read
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