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Welcome to the Mizzy Bender Blog — your daily dose of authenticity, empowerment, and unapologetic lifestyle exploration. Here, I share real stories, personal reflections, travel adventures, delicious recipes, and deep insights into the swingers lifestyle and ethical non-monogamy.
This blog is designed to inspire curiosity, spark connection, and remind you that living boldly is a choice you get to make every day. Whether you’re here for education, entertainment, self-growth, or a peek behind the scenes of my life, you’ll find something that speaks to your soul.
Dive into a world where honesty matters, empowerment leads the way, and community comes first.
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Setting Boundaries in the Swinger Lifestyle | Saying No Without Guilt
In this episode, Mizzy Bender, lifestyle educator and community leader, breaks down one of the most uncomfortable but essential topics in the swinger community: learning how to say “no” without guilt, shame, or fear of judgment.
Dec 16, 20253 min read
Questions to Ask a New Swingers Play Partner
So many jump into the swingers lifestyle having a preconceived idea of sunshine and rainbows but in actuality, that's not really what happens. Unfortunately, unless you are reading the blogs and listening to the podcasts to help educate you, things usually are messy.
Nov 25, 20255 min read
Do I Need a Partner to Be a Swinger?
Do I Need a Partner to Be a Swinger? First we need to define what a Swinger is. Swingers are...
Nov 18, 20253 min read
Is It Ok For a Married Man to Attend a Swingers Party Solo?
So my questions is , is it acceptable for a married man to attend an event solo? My wife and I have attended events together out of state and played with other couples in places like colletes and trapeze. Mostly "hotwifing " and couples swap. She has reached a point in her life where she feels...
Oct 6, 20254 min read
I've Developed Feelings for my Swinging Partner
During today's episode of Mornings with Mizzy, I share the challenges of separating emotions and feelings from sex in the swingers' lifestyle—especially for couples who are just starting out. This was a community summited topic, so I wanted to make sure we really tackled the topic head on. Developing feelings for my swinging partner is a No No - and we will get into the thoughts of others, how to avoid it and what to do if it happens.
Sep 29, 20253 min read
How Do I Get My Partner to Participate in the Swingers Lifestyle?
“My partner isn’t interested in the swingers lifestyle, but I am. We’ve discussed it a little. I do love and respect my partner and would never do anything they wouldn’t want to do. What do you suggest to someone that wants to play but also doesn’t want to lose their partner?”
Sep 21, 20256 min read
Inside My World as a Swingers Lifestyle Influencer
Join Mizzy Bender, swingers lifestyle influencer and advocate, as she shares her journey, future goals, and insights into the swingers community. Explore events, education, and real talk about ethical non-monogamy.
Aug 18, 20254 min read
My First MFM Lifestyle Experience: Absolutely Mind-Bending
Join Mizzy Bender as she shares her deeply personal, raw, and empowering story about her first MFM threesome experience. From nervous excitement to explosive pleasure, this unfiltered blog offers a real-life look into the swinger lifestyle and ethical non-monogamy.
Jul 10, 20258 min read
Creating Boundaries in the Swingers Lifestyle
In this episode, Mizzy Bender shares her real-life experiences and expert insights on creating healthy boundaries in the swinger lifestyle. From physical play limits to emotional clarity and aftercare, discover how ethical non-monogamy thrives on communication, respect, and evolving consent. Tune in for practical advice every lifestyle couple needs.
Jun 10, 20253 min read
Ending our New Hampshire Swingers Trip with a Bang
For the actual part of the swingers trip, I wanted to record a vlog so you can understand my emotions and true thoughts a little deeper than through just words. Another one for the record books!
Apr 20, 20252 min read
Swingers Lifestyle Tips
Recently I hosted a LIVE Swingers Lifestyle Tips Q&A on SDC.com, the largest swingers lifestyle platform. Listen in as I answer questions and share my own thoughts along the way.
Apr 17, 20252 min read
Mizzy Bender Exploring Sexual Empowerment: My Wild Early 20s
I don't know the true specifics but, on Friday and Saturdays she would go and sell shots to the crowd. They were looking for more hype girl
Apr 15, 20256 min read
Is it Really Just the Single Guys in the Swingers Lifestyle? Ep 8: Part 4 of 5
On today's episode of Mornings with Mizzy Podcast, we will be discussing Is it Really Just the Single Guys? It's a reoccurring topic that si
Mar 31, 20253 min read
The Swingers Lifestyle: Finding Strength, Secrets, and Self-Discovery in Unexpected Places
We hung out in the backyard around the fire, conversating about everything and nothing at all. It was nice to be in Spencer's company. I was
Mar 27, 20257 min read
The Pineapple Swinger Sign: What Does the Upside Down Pineapple Mean?
The pineapple swinger sign. If you've ever wondered, "What does swinger pineapple mean?" you're not alone! This question often comes up, esp
Mar 18, 20253 min read
Is it Really Just the Single Guys in the Lifestyle? Ep 6
On today's episode of Mornings with Mizzy Podcast, we will be discussing Is it Really Just the Single Guys? It's a reoccurring topic that si
Mar 17, 20253 min read
Mornings with Mizzy: It's all about the Adult Lifestyle is coming back!
Hello my fellow lifestylers and other interested humans! I feel like it's been a bit since I've written, so here I am to tell you what's new
Jan 20, 20255 min read
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