Mindbender Parties Shamrocks & Shenanigans: Swingers Party Recap with Mizzy Bender
- Mizzy Bender
- Apr 10
- 12 min read
Mindbender Parties Shamrocks & Shenanigans: Swingers Party Recap with Mizzy Bender
Setting the Stage
It was the week of Shamrocks & Shenanigans when we'd soon see all of our wild & crazy swinger friends and whatever other classification of Ethical Non-Monogamy that you fall into …. and man, was it busy!
I was really focused on Mizzy’s Boutique, as I took the year off last year due to the mental health challenges I was managing through. So there is a ton that needs to be done to get back up to speed. I feel like I am starting all over again, and to a degree I am. My mission is to balance the product lines to include way more sassy adult, spiritual, healthy lifestyle, and self-love type of products. Not just swingers pineapple merchandise. This is the week I began sourcing new items and also updated my SEO across the entire website.
Recognizing When to Take a Break
Goodness, when I work on SEO or something that has me in the computer all week-long, it makes my brain jelly. I'm sure you understand that based upon the different projects you've work on. Mental exhaustion versus physical exhaustion. Both terrible and I knew I had a physically exhausting weekend coming up, so I needed to be careful during the week.
I really hunkered down Monday through Thursday and accomplished everything on the to-do list. Come Friday, I was able to just chill and relax on the couch, snuggling with my pup before we had to leave. I am learning the area's that need more love and support so I keep on track. I am so happy to say that Spencer also is learning when to put emphasis on relaxing. We really grew through the challenges, so to know that he is aware and on my side keeps my mind at ease. I know longer feel selfish for taking the down time when I need it.
Friday - Time to Pack for the Swingers Weekend
To make things even easier, Spencer took Friday off so he was able to pack the truck, grab all of the decorations and all the equipment that we needed and get everything organized for the weekend. I don't help in this area. He knows exactly what he is looking for and how the event will be set up, so I just stay out of his way. We have our roles & responsibilities and keep to them pretty well.
Thor & Bender were staying at their grandparents house so Spencer also had to take the time to bring them over there. Although sad, I've come to realize this the best bet for event weekends. I love being able to ground myself with Thor in-between the madness, but its also too hectic keeping them on any kind of schedule. Its a bit of a nuisance especially in the winter months. I'd like to acknowledge that Jim is super helpful with caring for the pups with us but still. Spencer's parents really love having the boys visit, so that's what we'll do going forward.
75 Day Challenge
This was going to be the real challenge … staying on track through the weekend. I made sure I “meal prepped” my factor meals and snacks. The ferry is always the first downfall because they have the most irresistible French fries, grilled cheese and more. So I made sure to allocate a meal to Friday's travel. I have the best container that keeps food at the perfect eating temperature.
I also cut up a ton of oranges to bring to set up, preparing for the second down fall of the weekend … donuts at setup and breakdown. I needed to bring a healthy alternative.
I packed my book and was ready to tackle the weekend with focus! I set myself up in a way that I felt was going to keep me on track.
The Outfit for the Swingers Lifestyle Party
In an earlier blog, I mentioned that one of the things that I really wanted to start paying more attention to this year is my outfits. I needed to find the new Mizzy style that is always evolving and changing as I grow as a human. I'm pleased to say, I have found it!
The final choice was a fitted two piece green outfit. It had a high slit in the skirt and my boobies fit perfectly in the crop top halter. I chose an orange wig with shamrock glasses. It was fun and flirty! My outfit change was a shamrock onesies with black thigh high leg warmers. Another sporty sexy look that fit my personality well. Taking the time in advance has been really helpful. I think it puts my mind at ease. I don't feel so uncomfortable waiting to see if my outfit is gonna fit or if it will look right. Historically, I never tried on outfits before hand. Then I would have a mental breakdown at the hotel 5 minutes before leaving for the event because I would feel so icky and not put together well. That sets a major tone for the night. This new process has really helped!
It's Time to Travel to our Swingers Party Weekend
It was 5 PM on Friday when my work buzzer went off, letting me know the work day is over. I had about 10 minutes before it was time to jump in the truck and get to our 7 PM ferry. I was anxiously counting down the minutes to be able to see all of my besties. As you know our crew for set up are our very close friends and a few extras that we are establishing great relationships with. So for me, I really look forward to these weekends because this is my time that I get with them. Since we all live in different states, it makes it impossible to see each other often.
Friday night travel and the boat ride was seamless. We arrived to the ferry early, which was surprising because we stopped to put air in the tires for the trailer. I think that we got to the ferry with about 20 minutes to spare, which is very unusual. Our normal process down at the dock is to smoke a blunt before we board. In great Spencer fashion he shares the wealth with the guys who work the boat, making our experiences over the top almost every time. But they take good care of us, so I guess sharing really is caring.
The Boat Ride
I did eat my factor meal but caved and ordered a coffee cake. I nibbled on a few of Spencer's French fries and then ate the last of them right before we docked on the CT side. I did pretty good considering I would normally have French fries to myself and then also maybe a BLT or grilled cheese with tomato. So I'm calling it a win. LOL
My intention was to read the entire ferry ride, but I was having a really hard time getting into the book it ended up putting me to sleep. I slept the entire trip. This was the first time ever I decided to stop reading that book, finding something new. Somehow at this same time, my bestie and I started our own little book club. So I have a book on order that I can't wait to start reading on Monday.
Mindbender Parties landed on the CT Side
We made it to the CT side around 8:30pm which is the final leg of the trip. It takes about 40 minutes to drive to Rhode Island. I slept then entire way, with Spencer waking me up around 930 PM to head inside. He always signs us in first, gets the bags to the room all while I sleep in the car. He wakes me up when its time to lock the car up.
It was a very chill night with just he and I. we had nothing to do and no one to see, so it was an early night.
Saturday Morning with Mizzy Bender
Saturday morning I woke up a little bit earlier than Spencer. I had my coffee and I went downstairs to walk on the treadmill. I wanted to get in at least 30 minutes to ensure I hit my first 30 min exercise of the day to stay on track for the 75 day challenge. I knew it was going to be hectic the rest of the time so I made it a morning priority. When I came back to the room Spencer was just waking up and was looking to head down to breakfast. I had oatmeal 2 hard boiled eggs and an apple. That was a very successful morning.
Time to Set up the Adult Lifestyle Party
It was time to head to the club to start setting up.
We arrived after a few team members and sure as shit
there was the box of doughnuts. The Mizzy Monster ate 3 of them. LMAO. Off the wagon she goesssssss.
But you know what... I fucking loved every bit of them. nom nom nom
Setup was amazing and ridiculously silly. Everybody was in their zone and having fun. There's no words to really explain how amazing set up and take down truly is. The bonding time is the best ever. Our team is just simply incredible. We work really well together and all have a good time while doing it. We are becoming well beyond a well oiled machine and because of that, I was able to head back to the hotel around 330 PM. Spencer and team stayed back putting the final touches on everything.
The only goal I was trying reach was hitting 10000 steps before the event started. If I hit 10000 steps before the event even starts everything after that was bonus, so I felt like I was doing a really good job of keeping active for the day especially with all the treats I had. I am happy to say I hit that goal!
It's Time for Mindbender Parties: Swingers Club RI
It was time to start getting ready. For some odd reason, Spencer and I were running a little bit behind schedule. I think we got to the club about 10 to 9, which is really unusual for us. Another favorite part of the night for me is seeing the club for the first time before the event starts. It looks different in the dark than in the daylight so its always a lovely surprise to see the final presentation.
In the end, we both felt really good in our outfits and were ready to rock and roll. By the time we arrived to the club there was already a line outside. That's a clear indication of an awesome night to come.
Let the swingers party begin! Everyone came in theme looking absolutely spectacular. They brought their fucking a game wearing smiles and incredible vibes. This party was unbelievable. I don't think anybody could explain how incredible it was. You have to be there to experience it. You have to feel it.
Overall, I had the best freaking time. I laughed, I smiled and I took a ton of pictures I think our photographer got some really sexy photos of me dancing on the stage (you can see them on my OnlyFans). There was a lot of sexy moments happening everywhere. I had the best time up on that stage feeling so free, being who I all while having the most fun in the world. Mizzy is back!
Sometimes you just gotta feel the energy and you just gotta go with it. And that's exactly what I did Shamrocks and Shenanigans 2025 is going to go down in the history books as one of our most amazing parties. And I am super excited because we have 2 really big events coming up:
I hope you come party with us. Our events are so incredible, I promise you. I'm not just saying it.
Time to Bang
The event was over and we were back at the hotel getting ready to bang like wild animals. Spencer and I really don't interact at the events. He is so busy watching and being the boss. I am busy watching and doing my Mizzy thing, so by the time we get back to the hotel our sexual energy is ready to explode.
Of course on one of the nights were we are both rip roarin' ready to go, our room key decided to not work. So, Spencer had to go down stairs to get a new key. I was laining lane in the hallway like a silly person recording videos for the potential use on social media. These videos end up being the funniest. I am sure you can find them on my social media.
I know Spencer really wanted to bang couldn't wait. The exceptional energy of the night was just flowing so hard that we just couldn't really wait to rip each others clothes off. But because of the room key delay, there was enough time for friends to swoop in. We ended up hanging in our room for a little while until their food delivery was on its way. I was fighting falling asleep so much. I really needed to orgasm.
The second they left, Spencer headed towards me with a look in his eye and I knew it was going to be sensational. My goodness it was beyond sensational. That man knows how to please a woman to her very core. He takes me to places of pure ecstasy. I squirted so hard that night. It was such a powerful orgasm I felt instant relaxation and pure bliss floating away into sleepy land.
That's a Wrap
It was 4 hours later Sunday morning when I woke up for the day. I was very tired and so out of whack from day light savings time. I was looking like a hot mess. You should have seen me, I had my glasses on and I don't think I actually brushed my hair. But who really cares. Not this girl.
Everyone was meeting at the club for 11am breakdown. I am so impressed with how exhausted and beat we all were, that we still finished cleanup in record timing. We had 3 o'clock ferry and since we were doing so well, Spencer called to see if we could get our boat moved up, so they moved us up to 2 o'clock. We finished even earlier so we said "fuck it" instead of just like hanging around smoking let's get on the road to see if we can catch an even earlier boat. However we did it, we made it onto a 1:30 boat which I will say was really nice because the one thing I left out about Saturday afternoon set up was that Spencer's mom called us and asked us if there was anything in our house of importance because Long Island is on fire and it was pretty close to our house. We have a lot of pine barrens and every once in a while they go up in flames California style. That was a tab stressful but we were at an event in another state. There was nothing that we done anyways. The fire departments did a remarkable job of getting everything in order containing the fires as much as possible. I was anxious to get home simply to see what had gone one.
Our route home is right through the fire zones. It was definitely crisp and you could tell Long Island went on fire. Thankfully nothing too serious happened.
The moment we arrived home, we stripped naked and jumped in hot tub to decompress and relaxed. Soon after we decided to go on a little date to the Chinese restaurant. Spencer and I have made it a tradition to have Chinese food on Sundays when we get home from an event, we usually have it delivered to us, but you know, we had gotten home early so we said Fuck it, lets go!
We recapped and discussed our favorite moments of the weekend and different business things we'd like to change, grow or remove. It's something we do after every event to ensure we are always providing the best of the best.
Shamrocks and Shenanigans was a major success. I hope you guys all join us for Candyland on May 17, 2025 and my Birthday Bash July 19, 2025
Until next time, I will talk to you super soon.
XOXO,
Mizzy
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Background: Who doesn’t love to talk about sex and everything in between? Mizzy Bender is here to talk through all the down, dirty and not so fun moments that life has to offer. Mizzy is one female that isn’t afraid to embrace all aspects of life from sexuality to success.
Mizzy Bender is a 41 year old female entrepreneur and influencer leading the way within the Swingers / Adult Lifestyle community. If you believe in Ethical Non-Monogamy, this is the community for you. Mizzy’s journey started out with Mindbender Parties and still remains traveling the East Coast putting on full thematic swinger events with her partner in crime, Mr. Mindbender.
Mizzy’s passion and drive is all about creating an environment that is all inclusive and judgment free, where we can be who we are without question. Where one can have a platform to talk about the things we are curious about without question, finding like minded humans to love and support one another.
Through this journey, Mizzy's Boutique was formed. An adult novelty shop starting out online and has since migrated into a traveling pop up boutique at swingers / alternative lifestyle events across the US.
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