Daily Thoughts with Mizzy Bender 9.27.25
- Mizzy Bender
- Sep 27
- 8 min read
September 27, 2025
Daily Thoughts with Mizzy Bender
Rise and shine beautiful humans! It is 4:31am and I am ready to start my day. Normally, this would be my time to journal, but now we are going to transition it to the blog, keeping the same format. Generally, I recap the day before, self reflecting on all of it. So let’s dive into the world of Mizzy Bender.
Yesterday was such an amazing day even though it was gross and rainy. I guess you need those kinds of days to appreciate the sunshine more. Either way, I am sure the earth needed it. I am an early riser as you can see, so I was sitting in my living room, drinking my coffee (this is my favorite) while journaling. It was really peaceful listening to the drops of rain and wind whistling. That was until I started to hear the tree limb break. Next thing you know, crash! A pretty decent branch fell right outside the side door. Thankfully it didn’t hit anything. But even listening to the branch breaking was kind of peaceful in a way. Maybe taking in all the sounds so vibrantly in the morning is what really made my morning peaceful. Mind you, it is also pitch black. I do not turn on any lights. If I do use a light it is a book light. I just like being in complete silence, with my own thoughts, doing my thing. It’s a limited window. Once Spencer wakes up, that's it. My morning caters to his schedule. He’s a pretty bold personality if you haven’t noticed. But I love him, so I love taking care of him. That is the balance in a such a phenomenal relationship. We balance each other so much. He takes care of me more than anyone ever has.
Once he wakes up, it’s time for me to make his coffee. I make it just about every morning for him. If I happen to be deep into a project or writing at that time, I let him figure out his way but yesterday it was
all me. That’s when my morning responsibilities begin. I take care of the furbabies. As a matter of fact, my sweet Thor just made his way from the bedroom to the couch. This is something he does every morning. He senses I am not in our bedroom and comes to find me so he can go back to sleep. He is such a sweetie. He jumps up on the couch, I give him so many snuggles, then tuck him back in to go back to bed. After taking care of the furbabies, I pack Spencer’s lunch. I just purchased these bento box Tupperware's to minimize clutter and I am loving it. It has 2 tiers, so fruits & veggies go in one and the other is his lunch. I have been slacking a bit with this because of the new kitchen, but starting this week, little Mizzy Homemaker is making a debut. I can not wait to bring my DIY passion back, blogging through all of it. I can not tell you the passion, drive, motivation and spark that is flying in my soul. I want to unleash it like a Care Bear belly power, zapping everyone with my energy. LOL
I have been learning to be way more flexible in life, as Spencer's time management is awful. He has no care in the world to be anywhere on time, work included. It is the world of Spencer and we all live in, and somehow that works for him. For the most part, It works for me too. There is just that 1% that drives me crazy. The mornings I’ve had to learn to flow around him, yet not get jammed up in his flow. Technically, he should be out of the house well before 8am. That guy pushes it later and later. Granted, the last few weeks we have had kitchen install things going on, so I totally get it, but other days, he’s just beating to the Spencer drum and I need to make sure I don’t swirled into it. The one thing I always make sure I do is walk him to the door, giving him a kiss goodbye. This happens every single day and would not change it for the world. If a morning goes by and he tries to leave without that being the process, it feels completely wrong, and we reset, to correct the exit. Then, I can carry on about my day in a peaceful way.
My, Oh, So Amazing Job
I am not sure if you all know this, but I am a personal assistant/office manager for a very small business right around the corner from my house. My working hours are 9am-3pm, most of which I work from home. It has been a crazy journey that none of us expected due to my hysterectomy and my boss having to pursue an IVF journey. For any woman that goes through that, bless your heart. I don’t know the true extent of the shots/meds, but the doctor appointments involved is alot. I couldn’t imagine the strength it takes to endure all of it, but we are finding our groove and it is truly amazing with a new healthy baby in the world.
I pop over to their house a few days a week for a few short hours, taking care of business, cleaning up the kitchen and baking/cooking. This week I made granola, protein oat balls and apple sauce for the baby. Being in the company of my boss, who is 5 years younger than I and is a super healthy individual, has really helped me find my groove back into being who I really am at my core and that is a very natural girl. This job of mine has done so much more for my soul than you could ever imagine. Especially because I got the job out of spite. A few years ago, I wanted to stock the shelves at the local grocery store just to get out of the house, add some activity to my day, and interact with humans. That’s what I was missing. I didn't want to be around people all the time, but some time is needed. I was starting to go bananas back then. So Spencer, is his best way, challenged me like a mother fucker. He felt that I was selling myself short due to my career history. I eventually became tired and frustrated with him, so I applied for this position out of spite and landed it. It is a complete dream. I am beyond grateful and thank to the universe every day for it. Sometimes we do not realize what the soul needs until it is given to us. Maybe not in the way we thought, but if we self reflect we can find the silver lining making it the most remarkable thing ever. This job completes me and I appreciate it. Especially because I am still able to run my own operation with no hesitation.
Yesterday’s time in the office was spent dealing with a scam. A hacker created a very similar email account to ours, sending one of our customers updated ACH information to make accounts payable payments to. The customer called us to verify over the phone. The whole thing freaked me out, so I immediately hung up. I’ve heard that hackers can record your voice and use it for other things. No thank you! Needless to say, our morning was spent resolving this issue, covering and securing our company as best we could. Things are getting wild out there and I do not like it. It makes me want to dive further down into this alternative world of ours. We are wild and free now, but how long will that last for? Things seem to be getting more interesting by the day out in the big ole’ world of ours.
Meal Prep Shenanigans
I was back home by early afternoon with meal prep on my mind. I really wanted to meal prep, going live on my Facebook Subscription channel, but it turns out, you can only promote that you have a subscription channel while LIVE, not actually going LIVE privately. I had a feeling, but wasn’t completely sure. That turned into a funny moment for me. You can watch the shenanigans if you would like. It's about 15 minutes long.
It Was a Productive Day
I always feel so productive when I check off the items on my to-do list in my handy dandy planner. I keep a running list and then highlight it when I have completed it. Starting this new process has made me an entirely new, functioning human and I love it! I am so proud of myself for embracing my quirks, and finding the things that work for ME as an individual. My therapist helped teach me to embrace all of these things. That all of these are my strengths. That really helped me flip my mindset. It took time, but I did it.
The afternoon was spent working on my blogs. If you read yesterday’s launch blog, you will know this is
my passion. Writing, sharing stories, life, recipes, books, you name it… I want to share it. Usually, I have these ideas for such a long time and am afraid to make the leap. But once I do, the fire is unleashed and that is where we are at. The flames are burning ….. I hope you feel the heat!
The night ended in a very peaceful way reading magazines while snuggled on the couch with Thor and Spencer. This has become my favorite nightly activity. I love technology like the rest of them, but I also love the feel of real tangible things. Bringing magazines back has been a highlight of my day. Originally when I set up all the subscriptions it was to really up my writing game. I wanted to study formatting, titles, wording, photo’s, all things like that to enhance my skills as a captivating blogger. Now I am in love with all the content which has broadened my mind so much more when thinking about this blog. I feel excitement and creativity when browsing & reading these amazing colorful packets of words! I can not wait to bring all my learnings and thoughts to you!
Bold. Unfiltered. Empowered.
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Until next time, I will talk to you super soon.
Xoxo,
Mizzy
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Background: Who doesn’t love to talk about sex and everything in between? Mizzy Bender is here to talk through all the down, dirty and not so fun moments that life has to offer. Mizzy is one female that isn’t afraid to embrace all aspects of life from sexuality to success.
Mizzy Bender is a 42 year old female entrepreneur and influencer leading the way within the Swingers / Adult Lifestyle community. If you believe in Ethical Non-Monogamy, this is the community for you. Mizzy’s journey started out with Mindbender Parties and still remains traveling the East Coast putting on full thematic swinger events with her partner in crime, Mr. Mindbender.
Mizzy’s passion and drive is all about creating an environment that is all inclusive and judgment free, where we can be who we are without question. Where one can have a platform to talk about the things we are curious about without question, finding like minded humans to love and support one another.
Through this journey, Mizzy's Boutique was formed. An adult novelty shop starting out online and has since migrated into a traveling pop up boutique at swingers / alternative lifestyle events across the US.
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