When Darkness Comes - Part 1 of 3
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When Darkness Comes
When it feels like life is throwing a curveball, I think it is really life rerouting us to stay on the path we were meant to follow. Somewhere along the journey we got off track without realizing it and needed help finding our way back. After months of reflection, I firmly believe this to be true.
This story is to share the downfall of mental health, bringing awareness openly.
Taking My Power Back
In December 2025 I left my job running a multimillion dollar business working from home and part time from my bosses house.
After 3 years, I was so unhappy and my mental health was being tested daily. The only thing keeping me there was the amount of money I was making, which was an absurd amount.
A situation occurred around Thanksgiving and I was furious. I called a meeting with my boss to discuss the specifics knowing the outcome was going to be the elimination of my position. I didn’t care. That was the day I realized I was taking my power back. I think things were looked at that since I made so much money, I should suffer, and I just didn't believe that to be true. Especially when I think of the evolution of the job and the true unhappiness I was carrying.
On top of feeling like I was being taken advantage of, working in an environment with my bosses fresh new baby wasn't something I wanted to do. In my gut, I knew I needed to make a change.
The Plan
My plan was to take December and January off. In my eyes, it had been a challenging two years of struggling with my mental health and I just wanted a break. It was one thing after another in life and I never really took the time to heal. I just kept adding difficult situations on top of difficult situations and I was tired. My nervous system needed a break. So that's what I decided for myself. I was so ready and looking forward to every ounce of “ME” time.
December would be spent preparing and executing the holiday season as well as working on my blog.
January was going to be spent touring Long Island museums, blogging all about it. We have so many historical places to share. It's been my dream to do this.
February was when I was going to start the work search and hopefully be employed by March.
My ultimate dream job was to find a position as an assistant in an actual office. I missed the corporate
world, but didn't want the high intensity that goes with it. Having something with maybe 50 employees was the size I was looking for.
I needed structure. I needed to be with people. I needed to get dressed and feel like a person.
But before that, I wanted a minute to figure out all the things I really needed to feel fulfilled and authentically happy, as well as what I needed to change.
I talk so much about self reflection, self growth, not staying in places where we do not belong and many other topics along these lines. It was time I really started listening to my own advice.
I was setting myself up for success and I couldn't wait to start implementing everything. Little did I know, life had other plans.
Stay tuned for part 2 of 3. If there is something I can go into more detail on, let me know!
If you’d like to explore more, my blogs are full of personal stories, resources, and thought-starters to help you navigate this path. You can also reach me directly through mizzybender.com—the safest and most authentic place to connect with me.
Until next time, I will talk to you super soon.
Xoxo,
Mizzy
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