I've Developed Feelings for my Swinging Partner
- Mizzy Bender
- Sep 29
- 3 min read
Updated: Nov 1
I've Developed Feelings for my Swinging Partner
What to expect from "I've Developed Feelings for my Swinging Partner"
During today's episode of Mornings with Mizzy, I share the challenges of separating emotions and feelings from sex in the swingers' lifestyle—especially for couples who are just starting out. This was a community summited topic, so I wanted to make sure we really tackled the topic head on. Developing feelings for my swinging partner is a No No - and we will get into the thoughts of others, how to avoid it and what to do if it happens.
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Observing and Learning the Swingers Lifestyle
I recommend a 6-month observation period for new couples before jumping in. During this time, you can learn about the lifestyle, understand community rules and norms, and figure out what you’re truly comfortable with. This pause helps manage expectations and fantasies while easing into the reality of how things actually work.
Communicating with My Partner
For me, constant and transparent communication with my partner is non-negotiable. We need to discuss boundaries, comfort levels, and emotional capacity before and throughout our experiences. If I start to develop feelings for someone else, I bring it up immediately, because that’s often a sign that we might not be ready for the lifestyle.
Separating Sex and Emotions
Personally, I can separate sex from deep emotional connections, which helps me navigate the swingers lifestyle / lifestyle more easily. But I know this isn’t true for everyone. Each couple has to understand their own emotional boundaries. Developing feelings for a third party when the primary relationship isn’t equipped to handle it is one of the biggest pitfalls I see for new swingers.
The Role of Drugs and Alcohol
I strongly discourage the use of drugs and excessive alcohol in the lifestyle. They can cloud judgment, lead to unsafe situations, and ruin communication. I always stress the importance of maintaining sobriety and staying clear-headed so everyone feels safe and respected.
My Conclusion
At the end of the day, successful participation in the swingers' lifestyle requires deep self-awareness, constant communication with your partner, and the courage to pause or re-evaluate if emotional boundaries start getting crossed.
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Until next time, I will talk to you super soon.
Xoxo,
Mizzy
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Background: Who doesn’t love to talk about sex and everything in between? Mizzy Bender is here to talk through all the down, dirty and not so fun moments that life has to offer. Mizzy is one female that isn’t afraid to embrace all aspects of life from sexuality to success.
Mizzy Bender is a 42 year old female entrepreneur and influencer leading the way within the Swingers / Adult Lifestyle community. If you believe in Ethical Non-Monogamy, this is the community for you. Mizzy’s journey started out with Mindbender Parties and still remains traveling the East Coast putting on full thematic swinger events with her partner in crime, Mr. Mindbender.
Mizzy’s passion and drive is all about creating an environment that is all inclusive and judgment free, where we can be who we are without question. Where one can have a platform to talk about the things we are curious about without question, finding like minded humans to love and support one another.
Through this journey, Mizzy's Boutique was formed. An adult novelty shop starting out online and has since migrated into a traveling pop up boutique at swingers / alternative lifestyle events across the US.
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