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Welcome to the Mizzy Bender Blog — your daily dose of authenticity, empowerment, and unapologetic lifestyle exploration. Here, I share real stories, personal reflections, travel adventures, delicious recipes, and deep insights into the swingers lifestyle and ethical non-monogamy.
This blog is designed to inspire curiosity, spark connection, and remind you that living boldly is a choice you get to make every day. Whether you’re here for education, entertainment, self-growth, or a peek behind the scenes of my life, you’ll find something that speaks to your soul.
Dive into a world where honesty matters, empowerment leads the way, and community comes first.
Welcome to the #1 lifestyle blog for real people living real lives — without apology.
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As a Swinger, I am Disappointed I am Not Playing
Remember - the swingers lifestyle is supposed to be an extra spark to your primary relationship. You are not supposed to be filling your cup with your swinger relationships when your cup at home needs the filling. It creates off balance, insecurities, jealousy and so much more.
Jan 125 min read
Questions to Ask a New Swingers Play Partner
So many jump into the swingers lifestyle having a preconceived idea of sunshine and rainbows but in actuality, that's not really what happens. Unfortunately, unless you are reading the blogs and listening to the podcasts to help educate you, things usually are messy.
Nov 25, 20255 min read
Questions to Ask a New Swinger Partner
Questions to Ask a Potential Swinger Partner. This is a topic that is constantly spoken about. This is what I'm going to say to you ... there is no question that is off bounds or off limits if it's important to you. One thing to remember is that YOU are making the decision to sleep with somebody else. It is not your problem if someone
Nov 11, 20253 min read
Swingers, How Frequently Are you Actually Playing?
Swingers, How Frequently Are you Actually Playing? There is a huge misconception on or maybe expectation on how frequently one should be playing since they are a "swinger." Those that are new, often have this idea in mind which ultimately leads to chaos. My job is to help prevent that.
Nov 10, 20252 min read
I've Developed Feelings for my Swinging Partner
During today's episode of Mornings with Mizzy, I share the challenges of separating emotions and feelings from sex in the swingers' lifestyle—especially for couples who are just starting out. This was a community summited topic, so I wanted to make sure we really tackled the topic head on. Developing feelings for my swinging partner is a No No - and we will get into the thoughts of others, how to avoid it and what to do if it happens.
Sep 29, 20253 min read
Fight or Flight Mode: Coping with Anxiety, Surgery Fears & Business
I was literally going through the motions of life trying to get to the finish line. Coping with anxiety is rough stuff. The days couldn't come fast enough.
Aug 26, 20254 min read
Inside My World as a Swingers Lifestyle Influencer
Join Mizzy Bender, swingers lifestyle influencer and advocate, as she shares her journey, future goals, and insights into the swingers community. Explore events, education, and real talk about ethical non-monogamy.
Aug 18, 20254 min read
My First MFM Lifestyle Experience: Absolutely Mind-Bending
Join Mizzy Bender as she shares her deeply personal, raw, and empowering story about her first MFM threesome experience. From nervous excitement to explosive pleasure, this unfiltered blog offers a real-life look into the swinger lifestyle and ethical non-monogamy.
Jul 10, 20258 min read
Swinger Lifestyle Unfiltered: Body Image, Boundaries, and Mental Health with Mizzy Bender
Welcome to a live Q&A session hosted by me, Mizzy Bender, where I discuss various aspects of the swinger lifestyle, my personal experiences, and answering questions while providing advice and insights. The discussion covers topics such as my struggles with body image and sexuality, my recent weekend adventures, the importance of communication and setting boundaries in the lifestyle, and the role of mental health awareness.
Jun 19, 20252 min read
Swingers: Learn How to Communicate Effectively | Communication in the Swingers Lifestyle
Swingers: Learn How to Communicate Effectively | Communication in the Swingers Lifestyle How to Talk to your Partner about Swinging Mizzy...
Jun 3, 20252 min read
Let’s Talk About It: STDs in the Swinger Lifestyle
When it comes to swinging, communication and consent are king—but health and safety are just as vital. In this blog, we break down the realities of STDs in the lifestyle world: what to look for, how to stay protected, and how to normalize honest conversations about testing and treatment. Let’s make sexual health part of the pleasure.
May 16, 20253 min read
Swingers Lifestyle Tips
Recently I hosted a LIVE Swingers Lifestyle Tips Q&A on SDC.com, the largest swingers lifestyle platform. Listen in as I answer questions and share my own thoughts along the way.
Apr 17, 20252 min read
Weekend of Desire: Anticipation, Sexting, and Sensual Swingers Adventure Awaits!
Charlie, however, doesn't immediately respond. Instead, he goes silent. My heart sinks momentarily—a familiar feeling since Charlie often dr
Mar 31, 20253 min read
Shackled by Love, Saved by Fate: My Journey from Chaos into the Swingers Lifestyle
It was Tuesday morning and my then husband was still shackled up in the basement. I hadn’t seen him all week. I was becoming a bit worried,
Mar 28, 20257 min read
The Swingers Lifestyle: Finding Strength, Secrets, and Self-Discovery in Unexpected Places
We hung out in the backyard around the fire, conversating about everything and nothing at all. It was nice to be in Spencer's company. I was
Mar 27, 20257 min read
Fourth of July - The Turning Point to me Finding my Way into the Swingers Lifestyle
It was an awkward drive to work. The silence in the car was unbearable. We spent a lot of mornings like that, but that was our life. We car
Mar 26, 20257 min read
Is it Really Just the Single Guys in the Swingers Lifestyle? Part 3 of 5: Ep 7
On today's episode (part of 5) of Mornings with Mizzy Podcast, we will be discussing Is it Really Just the Single Guys?
Mar 24, 20253 min read
Mizzy Bender: Navigating the Swinger Lifestyle and Overcoming Divorce & Alcoholism
Mizzy Bender: Navigating the Swinger Lifestyle and Overcoming Divorce & Alcoholism'
Nov 12, 202414 min read
Mizzy's Birthday Bash
It's my birthday and we've got things going on! We'll be recapping the beach, talking about my actual birthday and our swingers party!
Aug 6, 202414 min read
New Hampshire: The Unexpected Adventure From Swinging to Vanilla
The weekend we didn't know we needed! The weekend we had planned is not the weekend that happened. Read all about our swingers adventure.
Jul 15, 202410 min read
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