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Welcome to the Mizzy Bender Blog—your go-to destination for real stories, education, and empowerment in the swinger lifestyle and ethical non-monogamy (ENM) community.
Dive into thought-provoking articles on relationships, jealousy, confidence, lifestyle events, and open communication, all designed to inspire, inform, and connect. From personal stories and event recaps to expert insights and lifestyle tips, this blog gives everyday adults the tools and confidence to explore their authentic selves.
Whether you’re curious about the upside-down pineapple, looking for guidance on open relationships, or simply seeking inspiration to live boldly, the Mizzy Bender Blog is here to guide your journey.
Explore, learn, and connect—because life is anything but ordinary.
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Swingers Party Recap with Mizzy Bender - Mindbender Parties Back to School 2025
We had the most remarkable time hosting Mindbender Parties Back to School 2025 swingers party. The first time we have held this swingers event in Rhode Island. As soon as the photographer sends us the event photos, I will be updating this blog and posting to my subscription channels. I can not wait to see what was captured. In the meantime, below is what you can expect from today's episode of Mornings with Mizzy.
Oct 33 min read
Mizzy Unfiltered: Navigating Jealousy After an Amazing Swinger Experience
Welcome to Mizzy Unfiltered, where I share my honest truth to your anonymously submitted question.
This is another pretty popular topic in the lifestyle because people do not understand the depths of the lifestyle. Everyone see's these glorified videos showing the excitement instead of the complexities. So let's dive into feeling jealous after an amazing swinger experience...
Sep 284 min read
Protein Oat Ball Recipe by Mizzy Bender
Whip up these no-bake protein oat balls in minutes! A healthy snack packed with oats, protein powder, and nut butter—perfect for meal prep, fitness fuel, or a guilt-free treat.
Sep 262 min read
Fight or Flight Mode: Coping with Anxiety, Surgery Fears & Business
I was literally going through the motions of life trying to get to the finish line. Coping with anxiety is rough stuff. The days couldn't come fast enough.
Aug 264 min read
Inside My World as a Swingers Lifestyle Influencer
Join Mizzy Bender, swingers lifestyle influencer and advocate, as she shares her journey, future goals, and insights into the swingers community. Explore events, education, and real talk about ethical non-monogamy.
Aug 184 min read
Hot Tub Confessions: Inside My Swingers Lifestyle Party & Microdosing Experience
Mizzy Bender tackles swinger misconceptions, reveal the truth about what really happens at these gatherings, and offer practical advice on navigating ethical non-monogamy and the swinger lifestyle.
Jul 302 min read
My First MFM Lifestyle Experience: Absolutely Mind-Bending
Join Mizzy Bender as she shares her deeply personal, raw, and empowering story about her first MFM threesome experience. From nervous excitement to explosive pleasure, this unfiltered blog offers a real-life look into the swinger lifestyle and ethical non-monogamy.
Jul 108 min read
Booked & Unbound Book Club
Join Mizzy's exclusive adult book club to explore thrilling adventures, captivating romances, and empowering self-growth reads. Indulge your imagination, connect with passionate readers, and discover your next favorite book.
Jun 273 min read
Inside the Swinger Lifestyle: Myths, Realities, and Essential Tips for Newcomers
Join Mizzy Bender, ethical non-monogamy educator and swinger event host, as she debunks myths, clarifies realities, and shares insider tips on navigating swinger events with confidence, communication, and consent.
Jun 253 min read
The Reality Hit - My Womanhood was Being Taken Away : Mizzy's Hysterectomy Journey
he would be able to remove everything from my hooo ha, successfully accomplishing this laparoscopically. If I waited even just a bit of time, it would have absolutely turned into a full on belly cut open surgery and my immediate response what fuck that. No way. Was he seriously saying we are doing a hysterectomy?
Jun 195 min read
Swinger Lifestyle Unfiltered: Body Image, Boundaries, and Mental Health with Mizzy Bender
Welcome to a live Q&A session hosted by me, Mizzy Bender, where I discuss various aspects of the swinger lifestyle, my personal experiences, and answering questions while providing advice and insights. The discussion covers topics such as my struggles with body image and sexuality, my recent weekend adventures, the importance of communication and setting boundaries in the lifestyle, and the role of mental health awareness.
Jun 192 min read
Anxiety is Bullshit!
Explore a raw and relatable journey through severe medical anxiety triggered by illness. Discover practical coping strategies, mindful meditation techniques, and personal insights for overcoming intense panic attacks and reclaiming emotional health.
Jun 154 min read
Lady Issues and the Swingers Lifestyle
About a year into dating it was just a nightmare. This really dictated our sex life and any potential opportunities with play partners. Things were so unpredictable. There would be times I would be so excited on event night when I wasn't bleeding and then BAM as soon as we got to the club it would start. It's really not fun. It's actually really gross.
Jun 115 min read
Creating Boundaries in the Swingers Lifestyle
In this episode, Mizzy Bender shares her real-life experiences and expert insights on creating healthy boundaries in the swinger lifestyle. From physical play limits to emotional clarity and aftercare, discover how ethical non-monogamy thrives on communication, respect, and evolving consent. Tune in for practical advice every lifestyle couple needs.
Jun 103 min read
Reflections on Step-Motherhood and the Complexities of Life
I am so thankful for my step son and always will be. I had the opportunity to be part of his world in such a big way. At the same time, I know that everything I did had layers of reasons attached. Some reasons feel deep and selfish, but I know they were always in the best interest of my step son.
Jun 84 min read
Swingers & Jealousy | Ethical Non-Monogamy & Jealousy
Let’s Talk About Swingers & Jealousy: Owning It, Understanding It, and Moving Through It. In this empowering vlog episode, I dive deep into one of the most common — yet rarely talked about —
May 82 min read
Navigating Emotional Trauma: My Journey Through Abortion, Family, and Toxic Relationships
Navigating Emotional Trauma: My Journey Through Abortion, Family, and Toxic Relationships Dealing with something so heavy at such a young...
May 612 min read
The Hysterectomy Journey that Started with an Abortion
Over the last few weeks, I have been at a stand still with writing. Truthfully, with everything and I have finally connected the dots. I’ve created boundaries and spoke my truth. Now, it's time to lay it all out starting at the very beginning which is somewhere during the summer of 1998.Â
May 49 min read
Ending our New Hampshire Swingers Trip with a Bang
For the actual part of the swingers trip, I wanted to record a vlog so you can understand my emotions and true thoughts a little deeper than through just words. Another one for the record books!
Apr 202 min read
Swingers Lifestyle Tips
Recently I hosted a LIVE Swingers Lifestyle Tips Q&A on SDC.com, the largest swingers lifestyle platform. Listen in as I answer questions and share my own thoughts along the way.
Apr 172 min read
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