Mizzy Bender's Lifestyle Journey: Every Smutty Detail
- Mizzy Bender
- 6 days ago
- 5 min read
Mizzy Bender's Lifestyle Journey: Every Smutty Detail
Somewhere in there I picked up an extra gig selling Home Interiors. I was a boss babe in the making. If you are not familiar, it was a home decorating party. I would bring all sorts of decor into your house, set it up beautifully, put on a presentation then the catalogue shopping would begin. I was really successful, selling hundreds of dollars at a time. It was a lot of fun learning how to run this mini business of mine. Who knew it would have prepped me for my lifestyle journey.
Before we go further, lets recap the work flow: I had my 9-5, shot girl on the weekend and sold Home Interiors during the week at night. I was hustling. Rent needed to be paid!
Also along the way, my house became the middle base for the guys to rest before continuing their commutes home. Whether they were working the bar I was or another, they needed a place to hunker down. One of the guys who I had a crush on in high school (LOL - who am I kidding, I probably had a crush on everyone in high school at one time or another. All the boys were different and unique in their own ways) would be one of the guys that would stop in. I feel like he had the wrong interpretation of me in school, maybe more judgy than the rest. He and I would snuggle, but I would never allow it to go further because I didn’t want to prove his point. Afterall, I made out with his brother in the bar office. I couldn’t make out with him now too. That didn’t feel right. So that was snuggles and sleeping.
The other one was a great friend in high school. We both equally crushed on each other, but never really had an opportunity to make that connection. I think he may have fingered me one night while we were having a friend's movie night. You know, one of those sneak under the cover type of moments. In general, he was one of the most sexually bold of the group. He was always talking about something sexual. Maybe that’s why I always had some sort of flirtatious relationship with him, who knows. He eventually became the boyfriend to my friend who got me the job at the bar. They started dating in like 10th grade or something like that. So, he would stop in to sleep after his bartending shifts were over. Remember, in NY bars were open until 4am before COVID. I really didn’t mind anyone stopping to sleep. I would rather them be safe than fighting to stay awake. Anyway, the important fact here is that in one of the times he stayed over, we ended up in a passionate, intense make out session. One of those ones where you’re wrapped around him, ready to tear every bit of clothing off. Yes, that kind. But in a quick minute, the realization that I was doing something really wrong to a good friend of mine, made me immediately stop. It never went any further.
Mental note… I journaled this entire time period in the most beautiful pink notebook. It was almost like an old school novel looking one. Every little smutty detail.
This is where my passion for writing began. I spent so much time by myself in my apartment, shaping the life I was so excited about, I wanted to document all of it. It was so exciting to me. Writing the details. Feeling the feels. Learning to be descriptive. All of it. I always imagined leaving my books in the walls for others to find in the future.
Maybe I was going for the shock value? I really don't know. But at the time, writing was my jam. It also helped me sort out the things I wasn't will to share with others. A lot of the sexual encounters weren't shared in detail, just that they happened. Writing through some of the scenarios was helpful because it kept me on track and accountable for what I was up to.
Please note that I journaled everything. It wasn't just my sexcapades. I woud write about the scary nights coming out of Macy's in the dark ally or the crazy things that happened at work that day. I always had a ton of bullshit going on with my family, so the entertainment there was endless. That sort of stuff I didn't talk to anyone about it because it was usually too crazy to even explain. I didn't trust anyone enough to really go into any details with anything.
I had no idea at that time that I truly had a passion for writing. I also had no idea that my soon to be husband would destroy all of it.
Until then, I will talk to you super soon.
XOXO,
Mizzy
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Background: Who doesn’t love to talk about sex and everything in between? Mizzy Bender is here to talk through all the down, dirty and not so fun moments that life has to offer. Mizzy is one female that isn’t afraid to embrace all aspects of life from sexuality to success.
Mizzy Bender is a 42 year old female entrepreneur and influencer leading the way within the Swingers / Adult Lifestyle community. If you believe in Ethical Non-Monogamy, this is the community for you. Mizzy’s journey started out with Mindbender Parties and still remains traveling the East Coast putting on full thematic swinger events with her partner in crime, Mr. Mindbender.
Mizzy’s passion and drive is all about creating an environment that is all inclusive and judgment free, where we can be who we are without question. Where one can have a platform to talk about the things we are curious about without question, finding like minded humans to love and support one another.
Through this journey, Mizzy's Boutique was formed. An adult novelty shop starting out online and has since migrated into a traveling pop up boutique at swingers / alternative lifestyle events across the US.
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