Mizzy Bender's Lifestyle Journey: Every Smutty Detail

Mizzy Bender's Lifestyle Journey: Every Smutty Detail

So, you're curious about ethical non-monogamy, or maybe you're already deep into the lifestyle? Awesome! I'm here to spill the tea, share my personal stories, and hook you up with seriously good educational resources. Think of me as your go-to... a judgment-free zone where we connect. Plus, Mizzy's Boutique has got some choice curated novelty products, and Mindbender Parties? Oh honey, those are for experiencing the lifestyle firsthand. Let's do this!

My Early Hustle

Somewhere along the way, I picked up an extra gig selling Home Interiors. I was a boss babe in the making! If you are not familiar, it was a home decorating party. I would bring all sorts of decor into your house, set it up beautifully, and then the catalogue shopping would begin. I was really successful, selling hundreds of dollars at a time. It was a lot of fun learning how to run this mini business of mine. Who knew it would prep me for my lifestyle journey?

Before we go further, let's recap the workflow: I had my 9-5 job, worked as a shot girl on the weekends, and sold Home Interiors during the week at night. I was hustling! Rent needed to be paid!

The Gathering Place

Also, along the way, my house became the middle base for the guys to rest before continuing their commutes home. Whether they were working the bar I was or another, they needed a place to hunker down. One of the guys who I had a crush on in high school would be one of those who would stop in. I feel like he had the wrong interpretation of me in school—maybe more judgy than the rest. He and I would snuggle, but I never allowed it to go further because I didn’t want to prove his point. After all, I made out with his brother in the bar office. I couldn’t make out with him too. That didn’t feel right. So, it was just snuggles and sleeping.

The other one was a great friend from high school. We both equally crushed on each other but never had the opportunity to make that connection. I think he may have fingered me one night during a friend's movie night. You know, one of those sneak-under-the-cover type of moments. He was always talking about something sexual, which made our flirtatious relationship even more intriguing. He eventually became the boyfriend of my friend who got me the job at the bar. They started dating in 10th grade or something like that. So, he would stop in to sleep after his bartending shifts were over. Remember, in NY, bars were open until 4 AM before COVID. I really didn’t mind anyone stopping to sleep. I would rather they be safe than fighting to stay awake.

A Passion Ignited

Anyway, the important fact here is that during one of the times he stayed over, we ended up in a passionate, intense make-out session. One of those where you’re wrapped around him, ready to tear every bit of clothing off. Yes, that kind! But in a quick minute, the realization that I was doing something really wrong to a good friend of mine made me stop immediately. It never went any further.

Mental note… I journaled this entire time period in the most beautiful pink notebook. It was almost like an old-school novel-looking one. Every little smutty detail.

This is where my passion for writing began. I spent so much time by myself in my apartment, shaping the life I was so excited about. I wanted to document all of it. It was thrilling to write the details, feel the feels, and learn to be descriptive. I always imagined leaving my books in the walls for others to find in the future.

Maybe I was going for shock value? I really don't know. But at the time, writing was my jam. It also helped me sort out the things I wasn't willing to share with others. A lot of the sexual encounters weren't shared in detail—just that they happened. Writing through some of the scenarios was helpful because it kept me on track and accountable for what I was up to.

Journaling My Truth

Please note that I journaled everything. It wasn't just my sexcapades. I would write about the scary nights coming out of Macy's in the dark alley or the crazy things that happened at work that day. I always had a ton of drama going on with my family, so the entertainment there was endless. That sort of stuff I didn't talk to anyone about because it was usually too crazy to even explain. I didn't trust anyone enough to really go into any details with anything.

I had no idea at that time that I truly had a passion for writing. I also had no idea that my soon-to-be husband would destroy all of it.

The Journey Continues

Until then, I will talk to you super soon.

XOXO,

Mizzy

The stories and experiences shared on this blog reflect my personal journey, memories, and perspective. Everything I share here represents my truth, told through my eyes and heart. This content is deeply personal, and out of respect, it should not be copied, shared, or reproduced in any manner without explicit permission. Each individual mentioned in my stories has played a significant role in my life—people I have deeply cared for, still care for, and hold respect toward. My intention is never to harm, offend, or disrespect anyone. Instead, my aim is to honestly share my experiences, thoughts, and emotions from my personal viewpoint. Please read these stories understanding that this is solely my perspective, and others involved may see or remember these moments differently. Thank you for respecting my story and those within it.

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Background: Embracing All Aspects of Life

Who doesn’t love to talk about sex and everything in between? Mizzy Bender is here to discuss all the down, dirty, and not-so-fun moments that life has to offer. I am one female who isn’t afraid to embrace all aspects of life, from sexuality to success.

I am a 42-year-old female entrepreneur and influencer leading the way within the Swingers / Adult Lifestyle community. If you believe in Ethical Non-Monogamy, this is the community for you. My journey started with Mindbender Parties and continues as I travel the East Coast, putting on full thematic swinger events with my partner in crime, Mr. Mindbender.

My passion and drive focus on creating an environment that is all-inclusive and judgment-free, where we can be who we are without question. It’s a platform to talk about the things we are curious about, finding like-minded humans to love and support one another.

Through this journey, Mizzy's Boutique was formed. An adult novelty shop starting online, it has since migrated into a traveling pop-up boutique at swingers and alternative lifestyle events across the US.