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Welcome to the Mizzy Bender Blog — your daily dose of authenticity, empowerment, and unapologetic lifestyle exploration. Here, I share real stories, personal reflections, travel adventures, delicious recipes, and deep insights into the swingers lifestyle and ethical non-monogamy.
This blog is designed to inspire curiosity, spark connection, and remind you that living boldly is a choice you get to make every day. Whether you’re here for education, entertainment, self-growth, or a peek behind the scenes of my life, you’ll find something that speaks to your soul.
Dive into a world where honesty matters, empowerment leads the way, and community comes first.
Welcome to the #1 lifestyle blog for real people living real lives — without apology.
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Inside My World as a Swingers Lifestyle Influencer
Join Mizzy Bender, swingers lifestyle influencer and advocate, as she shares her journey, future goals, and insights into the swingers community. Explore events, education, and real talk about ethical non-monogamy.
Aug 18, 20254 min read
3Fun – The Ultimate Dating App for Open-Minded Humans
3Fun – The Ultimate Dating App for Open-Minded Humans Alright, sexy humas — this is BIG news and I am so EXCITED! You already know I live...
Aug 7, 20253 min read
My First MFM Lifestyle Experience: Absolutely Mind-Bending
Join Mizzy Bender as she shares her deeply personal, raw, and empowering story about her first MFM threesome experience. From nervous excitement to explosive pleasure, this unfiltered blog offers a real-life look into the swinger lifestyle and ethical non-monogamy.
Jul 10, 20258 min read
Unfiltered Insights into the Swingers Lifestyle: Advice, Real Talk, and Personal Stories from Mizzy Bender
Throughout my experiences as a swingers lifestyle influencer, I’ve heard it all. People often think swinging is simply about casual, consequence-free interactions. In reality, it’s deeply rooted in clear communication, trust-building, and respecting personal boundaries. Forget misconceptions—real swinging requires honesty, patience, and mutual respect.
Jul 8, 20254 min read
Booked & Unbound Book Club
Join Mizzy's exclusive adult book club to explore thrilling adventures, captivating romances, and empowering self-growth reads. Indulge your imagination, connect with passionate readers, and discover your next favorite book.
Jun 27, 20253 min read
Inside the Swinger Lifestyle: Myths, Realities, and Essential Tips for Newcomers
Join Mizzy Bender, ethical non-monogamy educator and swinger event host, as she debunks myths, clarifies realities, and shares insider tips on navigating swinger events with confidence, communication, and consent.
Jun 25, 20253 min read
The Reality Hit - My Womanhood was Being Taken Away : Mizzy's Hysterectomy Journey
he would be able to remove everything from my hooo ha, successfully accomplishing this laparoscopically. If I waited even just a bit of time, it would have absolutely turned into a full on belly cut open surgery and my immediate response what fuck that. No way. Was he seriously saying we are doing a hysterectomy?
Jun 19, 20255 min read
Swinger Lifestyle Unfiltered: Body Image, Boundaries, and Mental Health with Mizzy Bender
Welcome to a live Q&A session hosted by me, Mizzy Bender, where I discuss various aspects of the swinger lifestyle, my personal experiences, and answering questions while providing advice and insights. The discussion covers topics such as my struggles with body image and sexuality, my recent weekend adventures, the importance of communication and setting boundaries in the lifestyle, and the role of mental health awareness.
Jun 19, 20252 min read
Anxiety is Bullshit!
Explore a raw and relatable journey through severe medical anxiety triggered by illness. Discover practical coping strategies, mindful meditation techniques, and personal insights for overcoming intense panic attacks and reclaiming emotional health.
Jun 15, 20254 min read
Lady Issues and the Swingers Lifestyle
About a year into dating it was just a nightmare. This really dictated our sex life and any potential opportunities with play partners. Things were so unpredictable. There would be times I would be so excited on event night when I wasn't bleeding and then BAM as soon as we got to the club it would start. It's really not fun. It's actually really gross.
Jun 11, 20255 min read
Creating Boundaries in the Swingers Lifestyle
In this episode, Mizzy Bender shares her real-life experiences and expert insights on creating healthy boundaries in the swinger lifestyle. From physical play limits to emotional clarity and aftercare, discover how ethical non-monogamy thrives on communication, respect, and evolving consent. Tune in for practical advice every lifestyle couple needs.
Jun 10, 20253 min read
Reflections on Step-Motherhood and the Complexities of Life
I am so thankful for my step son and always will be. I had the opportunity to be part of his world in such a big way. At the same time, I know that everything I did had layers of reasons attached. Some reasons feel deep and selfish, but I know they were always in the best interest of my step son.
Jun 8, 20254 min read
Swingers: Learn How to Communicate Effectively | Communication in the Swingers Lifestyle
Swingers: Learn How to Communicate Effectively | Communication in the Swingers Lifestyle How to Talk to your Partner about Swinging Mizzy...
Jun 3, 20252 min read
Let’s Talk About It: STDs in the Swinger Lifestyle
When it comes to swinging, communication and consent are king—but health and safety are just as vital. In this blog, we break down the realities of STDs in the lifestyle world: what to look for, how to stay protected, and how to normalize honest conversations about testing and treatment. Let’s make sexual health part of the pleasure.
May 16, 20253 min read
Swingers & Jealousy | Ethical Non-Monogamy & Jealousy
Let’s Talk About Swingers & Jealousy: Owning It, Understanding It, and Moving Through It. In this empowering vlog episode, I dive deep into one of the most common — yet rarely talked about —
May 8, 20252 min read
Navigating Emotional Trauma: My Journey Through Abortion, Family, and Toxic Relationships
Navigating Emotional Trauma: My Journey Through Abortion, Family, and Toxic Relationships Dealing with something so heavy at such a young...
May 6, 202512 min read
The Hysterectomy Journey that Started with an Abortion
Over the last few weeks, I have been at a stand still with writing. Truthfully, with everything and I have finally connected the dots. I’ve created boundaries and spoke my truth. Now, it's time to lay it all out starting at the very beginning which is somewhere during the summer of 1998.
May 4, 20259 min read
Ending our New Hampshire Swingers Trip with a Bang
For the actual part of the swingers trip, I wanted to record a vlog so you can understand my emotions and true thoughts a little deeper than through just words. Another one for the record books!
Apr 20, 20252 min read
Swingers Lifestyle Tips
Recently I hosted a LIVE Swingers Lifestyle Tips Q&A on SDC.com, the largest swingers lifestyle platform. Listen in as I answer questions and share my own thoughts along the way.
Apr 17, 20252 min read
How Do I Get My Wife to Join the Swingers Lifestyle?
How do I get my Wife to Join the Swingers Lifestyle". It is one of the most asked questions, and the answer is not so cut & dry. Listen to this podcast for swingers, proving lifestyle tips and education to help you be your best pineapple swingers self.
Apr 15, 20252 min read
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