Welcome to the Mizzy Bender Blog—your go-to destination for real stories, education, and empowerment specializing in the ethical non-monogamy (ENM) community.

Welcome to the Mizzy Bender Blog — your daily dose of authenticity, empowerment, and unapologetic lifestyle exploration. Here, I share real stories, personal reflections, travel adventures, delicious recipes, and deep insights into the swingers lifestyle and ethical non-monogamy.

This blog is designed to inspire curiosity, spark connection, and remind you that living boldly is a choice you get to make every day. Whether you’re here for education, entertainment, self-growth, or a peek behind the scenes of my life, you’ll find something that speaks to your soul.

Dive into a world where honesty matters, empowerment leads the way, and community comes first.
Welcome to the #1 lifestyle blog for real people living real lives — without apology.

Explore, learn, and connect—because life is anything but ordinary.

Homemade Granola by Mizzy Bender

The perfect homemade granola recipe—crunchy, wholesome, and naturally sweetened. Packed with oats, nuts and a hint of honey, this easy recipe makes a delicious and healthy breakfast or snack

Sep 263 min read

Is It Alright to be a Swinger?

The truth? Swinging is as “alright” as the humans who choose to engage in it. At its core, swinging is about consenting adults swapping sexual partners, living outside the traditional monogamous relationships we are all accustomed to. There’s no universal right or wrong...only what aligns with your values, your relationship, and your happiness.

Sep 76 min read

Navigating the Swinger’s Lifestyle as a Beginner

Join Mizzy Bender—swinger lifestyle expert and ethical non-monogamy influencer—for a raw and empowering Q&A session. Learn how to build confidence, communicate boundaries, and navigate swinger events like hotel takeovers and club parties. Perfect for beginners and seasoned lifestylers alike.

Sep 25 min read

Fight or Flight Mode: Coping with Anxiety, Surgery Fears & Business

I was literally going through the motions of life trying to get to the finish line. Coping with anxiety is rough stuff. The days couldn't come fast enough.

Aug 264 min read

3Fun – The Ultimate Dating App for Open-Minded Humans

3Fun – The Ultimate Dating App for Open-Minded Humans Alright, sexy humas — this is BIG news and I am so EXCITED! You already know I live...

Aug 73 min read

My Swinger Lifestyle Birthday Bash

Join Mizzy Bender, swinger lifestyle influencer and educator, as I share intimate reflections from my epic outdoor foam birthday bash. Discover empowering insights on boundaries, self-discovery, community, and how to authentically embrace the swinger lifestyle safely.

Jul 213 min read

Behind the Bubbles: Mizzy Bender Talks Swingers Lifestyle Events, Boundaries, and Birthdays!

Hello, my fabulous friends! It’s Mizzy Bender here, your go-to swingers lifestyle advocate and influencer, coming at you straight from the cozy warmth of my hot tub. If you missed my latest Q&A session, you’re in luck, because today I’m diving deep into all the juicy details, personal insights, and exciting events from our chat. So, sit back, relax, and let's unpack it together!

Jul 144 min read

My First MFM Lifestyle Experience: Absolutely Mind-Bending

Join Mizzy Bender as she shares her deeply personal, raw, and empowering story about her first MFM threesome experience. From nervous excitement to explosive pleasure, this unfiltered blog offers a real-life look into the swinger lifestyle and ethical non-monogamy.

Jul 108 min read

Unfiltered Insights into the Swingers Lifestyle: Advice, Real Talk, and Personal Stories from Mizzy Bender

Throughout my experiences as a swingers lifestyle influencer, I’ve heard it all. People often think swinging is simply about casual, consequence-free interactions. In reality, it’s deeply rooted in clear communication, trust-building, and respecting personal boundaries. Forget misconceptions—real swinging requires honesty, patience, and mutual respect.

Jul 84 min read

Booked & Unbound Book Club

Join Mizzy's exclusive adult book club to explore thrilling adventures, captivating romances, and empowering self-growth reads. Indulge your imagination, connect with passionate readers, and discover your next favorite book.

Jun 273 min read

Inside the Swinger Lifestyle: Myths, Realities, and Essential Tips for Newcomers

Join Mizzy Bender, ethical non-monogamy educator and swinger event host, as she debunks myths, clarifies realities, and shares insider tips on navigating swinger events with confidence, communication, and consent.

Jun 253 min read

The Reality Hit - My Womanhood was Being Taken Away : Mizzy's Hysterectomy Journey

he would be able to remove everything from my hooo ha, successfully accomplishing this laparoscopically. If I waited even just a bit of time, it would have absolutely turned into a full on belly cut open surgery and my immediate response what fuck that. No way. Was he seriously saying we are doing a hysterectomy?

Jun 195 min read

Swinger Lifestyle Unfiltered: Body Image, Boundaries, and Mental Health with Mizzy Bender

Welcome to a live Q&A session hosted by me, Mizzy Bender, where I discuss various aspects of the swinger lifestyle, my personal experiences, and answering questions while providing advice and insights. The discussion covers topics such as my struggles with body image and sexuality, my recent weekend adventures, the importance of communication and setting boundaries in the lifestyle, and the role of mental health awareness.

Jun 192 min read

Anxiety is Bullshit!

Explore a raw and relatable journey through severe medical anxiety triggered by illness. Discover practical coping strategies, mindful meditation techniques, and personal insights for overcoming intense panic attacks and reclaiming emotional health.

Jun 154 min read

Lady Issues and the Swingers Lifestyle

About a year into dating it was just a nightmare. This really dictated our sex life and any potential opportunities with play partners. Things were so unpredictable. There would be times I would be so excited on event night when I wasn't bleeding and then BAM as soon as we got to the club it would start. It's really not fun. It's actually really gross.

Jun 115 min read

Creating Boundaries in the Swingers Lifestyle

In this episode, Mizzy Bender shares her real-life experiences and expert insights on creating healthy boundaries in the swinger lifestyle. From physical play limits to emotional clarity and aftercare, discover how ethical non-monogamy thrives on communication, respect, and evolving consent. Tune in for practical advice every lifestyle couple needs.

Jun 103 min read

Reflections on Step-Motherhood and the Complexities of Life

I am so thankful for my step son and always will be. I had the opportunity to be part of his world in such a big way. At the same time, I know that everything I did had layers of reasons attached. Some reasons feel deep and selfish, but I know they were always in the best interest of my step son.

Jun 84 min read

Swingers & Jealousy | Ethical Non-Monogamy & Jealousy

Let’s Talk About Swingers & Jealousy: Owning It, Understanding It, and Moving Through It. In this empowering vlog episode, I dive deep into one of the most common — yet rarely talked about —

May 82 min read

Navigating Emotional Trauma: My Journey Through Abortion, Family, and Toxic Relationships

Navigating Emotional Trauma: My Journey Through Abortion, Family, and Toxic Relationships Dealing with something so heavy at such a young...

May 612 min read

The Hysterectomy Journey that Started with an Abortion

Over the last few weeks, I have been at a stand still with writing. Truthfully, with everything and I have finally connected the dots. I’ve created boundaries and spoke my truth. Now, it's time to lay it all out starting at the very beginning which is somewhere during the summer of 1998.

May 49 min read